我們可以評判一個行為，但永遠不能評判一個人。

本文摘自ListenLotus聽蓮公眾平台。

出自伊拉赫先生的著作《通向本質的道路》，生命智慧出版社，2010。由聽蓮翻譯；轉載也得到了伊拉赫先生的弟子同意和支持。

It"s when youconfuse people with their actions that you reject someone.

But people aren"twhat they do!

當你把他人和他們的行為混淆了，你就是在排拒他人了。

但是，他們不是他們所做的事！

When you lovesomeone, you don"t stop loving them because they do something you don"t like.Unless this accumulates over a period of time. But otherwise you don"t take theperson for what he does.

當你愛一個人的時候，你不會因為那個人做了你不喜歡的事情就停止愛他了。除非這樣累積了一段時間，否則你不會把那個人所做的事當作那個人。

When someone doeswrong, what do I think? I tell myself that this person is in a bad situation.They couldn"t have done otherwise than to do what they have done; they madethis choice because they didn"t find a better one the moment they made it. Thisis the truth, this is the reality. Then I become a little sad, because whensomeone has done wrong, he is going to have to pay for it, he is goiing to haveto suffer in order to compensate the wrong he has done.

當某個人做錯了事，我怎麼想？我告訴自己這個人在一個糟糕的狀態下。他們除了他們已經做的，不能做別的；他們這樣選擇因是為他們在那個決定的當下沒有找到更好的辦法。這是真實，這是現實。然後我會有點難過，因為當一個人做錯了事，他將為此不得不付出代價，他將為了彌補自己所做的而不得不受苦。

What do you dowith your children, if you have any? You love your child, and how does yourchild often behave?

Stupidly! He doesfoolish things because he is still ignorant. ... but you don"t love him anyless because he doesn"t understand or doesn"t obey you.

如果你有小孩的話，你怎麼對待你的小孩呢？你愛你的小孩，而你的小孩通常怎麼做事？

很笨！他做愚蠢的事，因為他還很無知……但是你不會因為他不懂或不遵從你，你就少愛他一點。

When you look atthe people you really love, whether they are your children or someone else, youwill see that you love these people, but sometimes you don"t love theirbehavior. It is very important to understand this difference, and above all toapply it to your self!

當你望著你真正愛的人，無論他們是你的小孩還是別人，你會看到你愛這些人，但是有時你不愛他們的行為。明白這個區別很重要。更重要的是運用到你自己身上！

Afterward you canno longer consider yourself guilty, a , a bad person, etc. You see that inthese situations, you were like an ignorant child, or a child who wasn"t strongenough, and you couldn"t have done otherwise than to do what you did, you chosethe best solutioin for yourself at that moment in the situation you were in.

然後你不會再認為自己愧疚、不重要、壞人，等等。你看見，在那些狀況下，你就像一個無知的小孩，或者一個不夠強大的小孩，你除了那樣做你不能做別的，在那個時刻、在你所在的那個狀況下，你為自己選擇了最好的解決辦法了。

This permits us tofeel a little freer on the inside, less guilty, without regrets, but it alsoobliges us to understand the other principle which says, "You"re going tohave to assume responsibility for what you did." There is the cause andits consequences. For this reason we can judge an act, but we can never judge aperson.

這讓我們在內心感覺更自由一點，少一些內疚，沒有後悔，但是也讓我們懂得另一個原則：「你將為你做的承擔責任。」有因果。因此，我們可以評判一個行為，但是我們決不能評判一個人。

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