關於分手，這姑娘的幾句話堪比文學大師，有148萬網友點贊

09-05

相愛的人為什麼會分手？這可能是很多人苦苦求索而不得的一大難題。

明明海誓山盟言猶在耳，執子之手的承諾仿如昨日，怎麼一轉眼就變了？

比如說，有一些明星在分手時，會很含蓄地表達，也可能會更直接一些。如月31日，闞清子與紀凌塵分手一事登上微博的熱搜。

這也算是在娛樂圈裡的表達分手的「清流」了。當然，對於一些文學大家來說，用他們自己的文字來表達分手，可謂是「泥沙俱下」，各有精彩了。

愛爾蘭著名作家奧斯卡·王爾德（Oscar Wilde）以他深刻犀利的毒舌語錄驚艷於世，後因同性戀情曝光而被捕入獄。在獄

中，他寫下《自深深處》（De Profundis）這封長信，既是寫給他愛恨交織的戀人阿爾弗萊德·道格拉斯（Alfred Douglas），也是對人生的反思。

Love can read the writing on the remotest star, but Hate so blinded you that you could see no further than the narrow, walled-in, and already lust-withered garden of your common desires. Your terrible lack of imagination, the one really fatal defect of your character, was entirely the result of the Hate that lived in you.
愛能讓人讀到寫在最遙遠星辰上的文字；恨卻蒙蔽了你的雙眼，使目光所及，不過是你那個窄狹的、被高牆所圍堵、因放縱而枯萎的傖俗慾念的小園子。你想像力缺乏得可怕，這是你性格上唯一真正致命的缺點，而這完全是你心中的恨所結的果。

德國哲學家尼采（Friedrich Nietzsche）的分手信，把最不中聽的祝福送給前任，果然不負「哲學家」之名。

Listen to me when I say that just as a bee abandons its flower once pollination is complete, you too must move onward, or go under.
聽我說，正如蜜蜂在授粉後會離開花朵一樣，你必須往前走，繼續走下去。
One day soon you will meet a man, and he will rise like a phoenix from the ashes, and it is my greatest hope that he will not give you syphilis.

很快，你將遇到一個鳳凰涅槃般的男子，而我最大的願望是他不會讓你染上梅毒。

在一戰期間，海明威在義大利米蘭的醫院遇到護士安格妮馮·庫洛斯基（Agnes von Kurowsky），並瘋狂愛上她，但安格妮年長海明威7歲。

面對痴情於自己的小弟弟，護士小姐姐安格妮是這樣終結姐弟戀的……

Now, after a couple of months away from you, I know that I am still very fond of you, but, it is more as a mother than as a sweetheart.
如今，在與你分別幾個月後，我覺得自己依舊很喜歡你，不過，這更像是媽媽對孩子的喜愛，而非戀人間的情愫。
I am now and always will be too old, and that"s the truth, and I can"t get away from the fact that you"re just a boy – a kid.
我對你來說太老了，現在是這樣，將來也永遠如此，這就是事實。而且我無法迴避一點：你只是個男孩，一個孩子。
And I hope and pray that after you thought things out, you』ll be able to forgive me and start a wonderful career and show what a man you really are.
我希望並祈禱，當你想明白後，你會原諒我，你將前程似錦，成為一名真正的男子漢。

不過，對於90後的人來說，對於愛情的理解又是怎樣的呢？對於分手後的情感領悟又會是怎麼一個狀態呢？

25歲的詩人Taylor Myers在社交媒體Tumblr上發帖，不加掩飾地表露了自己對愛的恐懼。正是這短短的幾段話，戳中了百萬人的心，收到148萬的點贊和轉發評論。

一起來看看她的原話：

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it.很多人問我，我最大的恐懼是什麼，或者什麼東西讓我最害怕。我知道他們希望得到諸如恐高、密閉空間或扮成動物的人這類答案。但我怎麼告訴他們呢，17歲的時候，我上了一堂「人生情感」的課程，發現大多數人不愛了的原因和當初墜入愛河的原因完全相同。
That their lover』s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. 他們愛人身上曾經可愛的固執如今成了不肯妥協，他們曾經一根筋的蠻勁如今成了不成熟的表現，他們曾惹你喜愛的壞習慣如今成了燒錢的事兒。
Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.他們的真性情成了魯莽和不負責任，他們把腳翹在儀錶盤上的動作不再性感迷人，只不過是你繁忙生活中另一件讓人心煩意亂的事情。
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.對於那個曾認為世間一切燦爛星辰盡在我眼中的人而言，我可能會變得醜陋不堪，一想到這些，沒有什麼事比這更令我悲傷、害怕了。
這絕對是95後女生對於愛情的真摯之言。在她的帖子里，語言未加矯飾，帶著恐懼，充滿遺憾，觸動眾人的心。這些人都經歷過兩種感情的強烈對比——年少熱戀時強烈而炙熱的愛慕，和一旦激情愛火燃盡後，只剩現實冰冷的灰燼。

之後，她才又寫了一篇文章，解釋了一下關於課程和她所學到的愛情心得。她從另一個角度分享自己的看法，然後，又戳中了大量網友的心！

愛到底是什麼？是種感覺，還是種選擇呢？來聽聽Taylor怎麼說。

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I"ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.
我從沒想過這會成為我寫過的上百首詩歌里最受歡迎的。寫作那篇文章的時候，我內心極度痛苦、悲傷，而忽略了那個課程最美好的部分。
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（My teacher） made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.她讓我們去採訪了一些曾結過婚或處於婚姻中的成年人，詢問他們的婚姻狀況，為何長久或為何以失敗告終。最後，我問每一個人，愛是一種情感還是一種選擇。
Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing.每個人都說，愛是種選擇。愛是一種有意識的承諾，是你選擇和一個人日復一日堅持維繫下去的一件事，而那個人也同樣選擇這麼做。
They all said that at one point in their marriage, the "feeling of love" had vanished or faded and they weren"t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.他們都說，在自己婚姻中的某一刻，這種「愛的感覺」消失了，或褪色了，他們不再感到快樂。他們說，感覺一直在變，在這種搖搖欲墜的基礎上，你建不起來什麼長久的東西。
The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.還在一起的人說當情況不妙時，他們會選擇溝通，去搞清楚到底哪裡出問題了，要怎麼修復。他們會選擇重新創造一些事情，值得雙方去投入感情。
The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.離婚人士則表示，他們選擇了離開。

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I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I"ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I"ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days. 我發現了感情和承諾之間的區別。我從未主動靠近那些撩撥我心弦或讓我勞神的人。我選擇的都是那些承諾選擇我的人，他們願意認真去尋找一些哪怕在最不堪的日子裡也能讓人心生喜歡的東西。
I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.我不再害怕那些說我是他們整個宇宙的人有一天在我的眼中看不到星星，只要他們仍選擇繼續尋找，總有一天，星辰會再次出現。