約會買單指南

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I love you money !! Oh no..I mean honey ...

在這個遍地都是花式虐狗cp的世界裡，偶爾也有一件事多多少少有些尷尬，那就是！約會誰買單？（敲黑板！！這道題是必考題！！劃重點！！）

世界上最動聽的情話，不是 I love you 而是 can I pay for you？

試想你和你的男神第一次約會，在一家別具情調的西餐廳剛剛吃完一頓浪漫的燭光晚餐，音樂縈繞，香氛正好，這時，他拿出一個小小的計算器敲敲敲，敲完對你說：「Darling ,這頓飯你付521.25元，給你抹個零，給我521就好，愛你喲！么么噠！

(╯°□°）╯

就這樣，談笑間，愛情灰飛煙滅。。

當然DAKA醬不是迫害我們廣大男性同胞，我們女生不會把你吃窮的。那麼約會到底應該誰來買單呢？DAKA醬作為一個軟妹來告訴你，這個問題沒有準確的答案，it depends…想知道嗎？往下看！有彩蛋～

在解決問題之前，先來翻開我們的DAKA小百科，你知道AA制是怎麼來的嗎？

AA是Algebraic Average的縮寫，意思是代數平均，也有人認為是All Apart（全部分開）的縮寫。用於表示各人平均分擔所需費用～

其實表達分開付賬除了AA外，還有另外一種地道的說法－－go Dutch

eg. Lets go Dutch this time.

這次我們各自付賬。

這要追溯到16~17世紀時的荷蘭和威尼斯，那裡是海上商品貿易和早期資本主義的發跡之地。終日奔波的義大利、荷蘭商人們已衍生出聚時交流信息、散時各付資費的習俗來。因為商人的流動性很強，一個人請別人的客，被請的人說，說不定這輩子再也碰不到了，為了大家不吃虧，彼此分攤便是最好的選擇了。而荷蘭人因其精明、凡事都要分清楚，逐漸形成了lets go dutch（讓我們做荷蘭人）的俗語。

（荷蘭人就這樣永遠地躺槍了，默哀一秒鐘）

好，小百科時間結束，讓我們開始打怪吧！！

To help clear up the confusion, here are some tips that will help you figure out who pays for the first date in certain situations.

If you ask her out…

如果你約妹子出去玩

If you ask a girl out then the answer to the 「who pays on a date?」 question is a simple one. It』s you. When you invite a girl on a date it』s your responsibility to take care of her. So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date. After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you. And that will be difficult if she』s worried about the money she』s spending.

如果你約妹子出去玩那麼誰買單呢，毫無疑問，是你。因為作為一個爺們兒，你約妹子出去玩，你就有責任照顧好她。讓她放鬆並享受和你在一起的時光，而不是為了誰付錢的問題感到尷尬或者煩心。

Another reason it』s important for men to pay for a date is that it sends a clear message of your intentions. If you have a woman split the tabwith you she may no longer see this as a 「date」. She may instead get the message that the two of you are nothing more than friends. If you want to avoid her seeing you in that light then paying for the date will go a long way.

另外一個重要原因是，你來買單會很明確的表示出你的心意。如果你要求姑娘分開付賬的話她會覺得你們不是在約會而不過是普通朋友一起出來玩而已。如果你不想讓她這樣認為的話，買單會讓你們的關係更長久。

In fact, girls don』t expect you to pay EVERYTHING for her , she just need to know that you care about her ,that you WANT to pay for her . Maybe the first time you pay and next time she will pay.

事實上女生並不要求你為她付所有的帳，重要的是態度，你要讓她知道你在乎她，你願意為她付錢。可能第一次是你付錢，下次她就會付錢了。

What if she offers to chip in?

如果她提出要出錢呢？

The woman you date may offer to pay for herself. She may reach forher purse and suggest once or twice that she can pay half the bill. This may just be a courtesy, and her way of showing that you don』t have to pay for her. But in these situations you want to tell her to put the purse away. Let her see that you want to pay for her. That spending time with her and seeing that she is taken care of is more important than the handful of dollars you』re spending.

有時候姑娘們會提出要分開付，甚至一兩次地伸手去拿錢包。但是這可能只是出於禮貌，表示你不用一定要幫她付。但是這種情況下你一定要拿出霸氣總裁的風範，讓她把錢包拿開，讓她知道，你願意為她付錢，讓她知道和她在一起，照顧她，遠比那幾塊錢重要。

What if she』s really insistent?

如果她堅持要付錢呢？

It』s not often but every once in a whileyou may go on a date with a woman who absolutely refuses to let you pay for her. If that』s the case there』s no point fighting it. Offer to pay for her but if she is really persistent about it then just split the bill.

雖然不常見，但是偶爾也會有這樣的妹子，堅決拒絕你為她付錢，這個時候就沒有必要堅持付錢了。只要表示出你願意為她買單，當她堅持拒絕的時候分開付錢就好了。

There are some good reasons why a woman may insist on paying for herself. Maybe she sees it as a point of pride that she can take care of herself. Maybe she doesn』t want to feel like she 「owes」 you anything.

女生堅持自己付錢可能是出於一些合理的原因。她會把這種行為看作是一種女性的尊嚴，表示她有能力自己照顧好自己，不依靠男人。或者她不想「欠」你什麼。

Or maybe she feels guilty when guys buy her things and she doesn』t want to feel that way. If her reasoning is anything like the points mentioned above, you can actually be doing her a favor and showing you respect her values by allowing her to pay for herself.

也可能是男生為她付錢會讓她感覺很愧疚。無論出於什麼原因，這個時候你都應該順著她的心意，答應讓她付錢，表示你對她的尊重。

What if she asks you on a date?

如果是妹子約你呢？

Now the question of 「who pays on a date」 can be a little trickier if the girl invites you out. If that』s the case you don』t necessarily have the same obligation as you would if you invited her out. So in these instances you』re fine splitting the tab.

那這個問題可能會有些棘手。這種情況下你就沒有必須要照顧她讓她開心的義務了，分開付賬是合理的。

Of course you can always be the super-gentleman and still pay for her anyway. Not only would that be appreciated, but it would send a clear message of your interest and desire to be more than friends.

當然你仍然可以紳士地為她付款。這不僅僅會讓她更欣賞你，也傳達了明確的信息表示你對她有興趣並想繼續交往下去。

所以，正常情況下，買單的時候是這樣的。

He grabs the check immediately.

他立即拿過賬單

She does the 「fake reach.」

她假裝掏錢包

He waves her off and insists on paying.

他大手一揮直接付錢

She thanks him for his generosity.

她謝謝他的慷慨

End of scene.場景結束

HOWEVER:

You, as a man, can』t get mad if she doesn』t make the offer to split. If you offer to take her out, expect to pay for the whole thing, and be pleasantly surprised if you don』t have to.

作為男生，如果對方沒有提出要分開付賬，別生氣。你約她出去，是做好了請她的準備。如果她表示不用你請，那麼你應該感到驚喜，而不是理所應當。

You, as a woman, can』t get mad if he accepts your reach. If you offer to split, and he lets you split (or even pick up) the check, he has done absolutely nothing wrong. It』s not a game or a test, unless you treat it like one.

作為女生，如果你假裝掏錢包的時候他真的讓你付了，也別生氣。因為你表示你可以付錢，他就讓你付了，這樣他沒做錯任何事。不要把談戀愛和約會當成遊戲或者考驗。

One final, overriding note for men: It doesn』t matter if it』s coffee or dinner, whether you make more or she makes more, whether you asked her out or she asked you out. You can never go wrong by paying.

最後，各位廣大男性同胞，最重要的提醒：無論是咖啡還是大餐，無論是你花的多還是她花的多，無論是你約她還是她約你，買單永遠沒有錯。

So，我們來看一看各國男女約會誰買單？

（這就是傳說中的彩蛋！！！很有趣的呵呵呵呵）

DAKA醬認為，人生吶，最重要的是開心！

你餓不餓呀，我給你買個單？

乖～先去打卡

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