克服不自信的六大方法

「你永遠也成功不了！」

「You』re not good enough.」

「你還不夠好！」

「You might as well give up now.」

「你最好還是放棄吧!」

Chances are, you』re hearing things like that every single day.

有可能，你每一天都會聽到類似的話語。

They don』t come from your friend, or even your enemies.

這些話不是來自你的朋友，也不是來自於你的對手。

They come from inside your own head.

而是來自你自己的腦海。

Perhaps you』re working towards a big goal: like losing weight and getting fit, or starting up your own business. You might have big ambitions … but you』ve also got to fight a battle against those internal voices.

也許你正為了一個遠大的目標而努力：譬如說減肥啊，塑型啊，或者創業什麼的。也許你雄心滿滿，但你也需要同這些心聲作內部鬥爭。

You』re not the only person who feels that way. We all have to struggle against self-doubt. And we can all overcome those negative, destructive thoughts that hold us back from reaching our goals.

這樣想的不是只有你一個人而已。我們都不得不因不自信而掙扎。但我們是都可以克服所有的消極面，負面的想法，從而達成我們的目標。

Here』s how.

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#1: Remember What You』ve Already Accomplished

1.記住，你已經很精通了。

You』ve managed to achieve lots of amazing things already. Perhaps you』ve made direct progress towards your goal: you』ve lost 10lbs, so you know you can go on and lose another 10.

你已經努力完成了很多了不起的事情。也許你一朝著你的目標前進了一大步：你已經減掉了10磅，你就可以堅信你可以繼續下去，並再減掉10磅。

Even if your goal is brand-new, you can draw on past accomplishments. Maybe you』re overwhelmed by everything you need to learn in order to get your graduate degree … but you can remember how your hard work paid off when you were an undergraduate, or a high school student.

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就算你的目標是最近才新立的。你也可以運用過去的經驗。也許你為了拿到畢業文憑被你必須要學習的東西壓得透不過氣來。但是你應該還記得，為了成為一名大學生或者高中生時你付出了多少努力。

Do it: Write down three things that you』ve accomplished. It doesn』t matter how big or small they are.

行動吧：寫下三件你曾經完成的事情，無論它們是多麼的重大或是微不足道。

#2: Act Confident

2.表現得自信

Even if you don』t feel at all confident, you can behave as if you are. Once you start acting confident, you』ll begin to believe in yourself.

即使你一點都沒有信心，但你也要表現得很自信。一旦表現出了自信，你就已經開始相信自身了。

Let』s say you』ve started doing freelance photography on the weekends, and you』ve got your first few paying gigs. Your clients don』t need to know that you』re new to this. They don』t need to hear about how nervous you are. If you behave like a professional, they』ll see you as one – and you』ll start to see yourself through their eyes.

我們假說你開始在周末從事自由攝影，並且你已經獲得了少量的酬薪。所以，你的客人不需要知道你是個新手。他們也不會聽到你有多麼的緊張。如果你表現地很專業，他們就會正視你，你也可以從他們的眼中看到自己的存在。

Do it: Figure out one way in which you could act confident, starting right now.

行動吧：找出一種屬於自己表現自信的方法，並馬上付諸行動。

#3: Read Success Stories From Other People

3.從他人那邊學習一些勵志的故事

Whenever I』ve tackled a big goal in my own life – like losing weight or starting my own business – I』ve been inspired by stories from others.

在我的一生中，無論合適處理一個稍大的目標-減肥或者創業-我總是能從別人的故事中得到一些啟發。

Lots of people have achieved the goals that you』re working towards. Many of those people will have started off in a worse position than you: they were more overweight, or more deeply in debt, or struggling in all sorts of ways. But they still succeeded … and so can you.

你共事的很多人中都曾經有過成功。在他們中間，有相當一部分人在開始的時候處於了一個比你更糟糕的位置：他們可能比你更胖，或者背負了巨額債券，或者在各種不利中掙扎。但是他們仍舊成功了。所以，你也是可以成功的。

Do it: Look for a book or blog written by someone tackling a similar goal to yours, and read a little bit every day.

行動吧：尋找一本書或者一篇日誌，書中描寫了某人樹立了一個同你類似的目標，然後每天都讀上一段。

#4: Ask For Feedback from a Professional

4.找專業人士反饋信息

You might have spent months or years honing your skills in a particular area, but you』re still worried that you』re not good enough.

你可能花了幾個月甚至幾年在某個特殊的領域磨練你的技能，但是你仍舊擔心你自己做得還不夠好。

Find someone professional, and ask them for their opinion. If you』re hoping to write a best-selling novel, hire a writing coach or editor. If you』re planning to start up a restaurant, ask for advice from someone who』s done the same thing. You』ll find out that you』re doing a lot of things right (and you』ll also get a few tips on how to make improvements).

於是，找專業人士，問問他們的意見吧。如果你希望寫一部熱銷的小說，就找個寫作指導或者編輯。如果你想開個飯館，你可以向開飯館的人請教。你會發現你做的很多事情都是正確的（當然，你也會得到一些啟示來提升自己。）undefined

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Do it: Consider hiring a coach, or joining a small group or class. You could look locally or online.

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行動吧：考慮下找個指導員，或者加入一個小組或者班級。你可以從當地或者線上找找看。undefined

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#5: Collect Compliments and Testimonials

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5.收集祝賀和客戶感言undefined

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If you』re working on a long-term goal, chances are that you』ve have some nice comments from other people. Perhaps your friend told you how great you look now that you』ve lost a few pounds, or your first clients raved about what a great job you did for them.

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如果你的目標是長期的，你將很可能從別人那邊獲得一些良好的評價。也許你的朋友告訴你，因為少了幾磅肉，現在的你看上去多麼的棒。或者你的第一批客戶對你表示感激，說你為他們提供了一份多麼了不起的工作。undefined

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Make sure you keep any encouraging words that you hear. Write down what your friends say. Save all those 「thank you」 emails. Post your testimonials on your website for the world to read. All of these positive, encouraging voices will help to quiet the demons of self-doubt.

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確保你收集了所有你聽到的鼓勵的言語。寫下你朋友們說的話，收集所有表示「感謝」的郵件，在網站上面寫下客戶的感言，讓全世界的人都看到。所有這些積極的行動，鼓勵的聲音夠能夠幫助你更加自信。undefined

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Do it: Look through your emails for any positive feedback, and print it out.

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行動吧：翻出郵件中所有的積極反饋，並列印出來吧。undefined

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#6: Plan Your Next Few Steps

6.計劃接下來你要做的幾個步驟undefined

One of the best ways to overcome self-doubt is to have a clear plan. It』s easy to start thinking 「I』ll never do it」 if you don』t know what your next steps are.

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克服不自信最好的辦法之一就是制定一個明朗的計劃。如果你不知道接下來要做什麼，可以作這樣的簡單思考：「我從來沒做過。。。」undefined

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A clear plan lets you break things down into manageable chunks. It highlights any areas where you』ll need to do further research or get some help. It takes any vague worries and fears and forces them out into the light – where you』ll be able to see plenty of ways to overcome them.

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一個明朗的計劃可以幫助你把事情分成容易操作，循序漸進的幾個部分。這樣可以很明顯的划出你需要作深入研究或者尋求幫助的部分。這樣可以排除你的憂慮，恐懼和阻力，因為你通過計劃單可以很容易地找到克服難題的多種方法。undefined

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Do it: Write down the next three steps towards your goal.

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行動吧：為自己的目標寫出接下來的三個步驟吧。undefined

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