當女人拒絕對她好的男人時，她們在想什麼？ - 今日頭條(TouTiao.com)

答主：Lauren Campbell

編譯：伍壕 & 陳常然

Because there"s more to it than that.

因為她們想要的不僅僅是「對我好」。

Let"s say you like hamburgers. Someone asks you what you like on your hamburger and you say "I like onions on my hamburger". Alright, sounds good. But then that person gets you a burger and all it is, is an onion slapped between two hamburger buns. And now you"re sitting here wondering, where"s the hamburger meat, the lettuce, cheese, pickles, tomato, ketchup, and mustard?

就好比你愛吃漢堡。有人問你漢堡里要配什麼，你說「我喜歡配點洋蔥」。好吧，感覺不錯。但過一會這傢伙把那個漢堡遞給你，兩片麵包，中間只有洋蔥。你坐在那兒尋思。肉呢？生菜呢？起司番茄番茄醬芥末呢？？

But then that person gets mad at you and says "But you told me you like onions on your hamburger. So, I gave you onion and now you don"t like my hamburger!"

然而這時，給你漢堡的傢伙發飆了：「你說你喜歡洋蔥，我給你洋蔥，但你又不喜歡我的漢堡！」

Yes, a woman may want a guy who treats her well. But that doesn"t mean that every guy who treats her well will just automatically get a date. If I dated every guy that treated me well I"d have dated every guy who was ever nice to me including my best friend.

的確，女人想要對她好的男人。但這不是說她會自動跟每個對她好的男人約會。要是這樣，那我是不是也要跟我的死黨約會？

A woman will probably also want to feel compatible with said guy, want to be attracted to him, want him to make her laugh, be supportive of her, have compatible goals, etc.

女人也想遇到和自己契合的他，渴望被他吸引，期盼他能帶給自己歡笑，希望他能支持自己，並且兩人對未來的期待要能夠協調。

Lots and lots of guys will treat a woman well. It shouldn"t be something rare or special to find a guy that treats you well. Because the opposite is a guy who treats you like crap. Who puts you down or hits you or abuses you or neglects you. That just makes the guy a bad catch no matter what. To be a good catch, it takes more than just meeting the bare minimum requirement of "well, I"ll treat you nicely."

無數男人會對女人好。「好男人」既不罕見，也不特別。好男人的反義詞是那些推倒你，揍你，虐待或冷漠待你的男人，不管怎樣，這隻定義了那些糟糕的人。要成為優秀的相處對象，就不能僅僅滿足「好吧至少我對你挺好的」這種最低要求。

Would you rather have this

你是想要這個

Or would you rather have this

還是這個

Women operate along the same pattern. Yes, we may want a guy that treats us well. But that"s not all we want. We want the full burger, not the onion. Don"t be the onion.

女人的想法都一樣。我們的確需要好男人，但不僅僅是好男人。我們要的是整個漢堡，不是洋蔥。不要當那隻洋蔥。

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