掌握了這15種常見肢體語言，你也能成「讀心專家」！速學~

肢體語言是一種無聲的語言。通過一個人的手勢、肢體動作我們可以了解到他的思想意識、情緒變化等，它往往比善於「偽裝」的有聲語言更真實可信。在2009年熱播的美劇《別對我撒謊》（Lie to me）中，微表情專家卡爾·萊特曼無須測謊儀，無須確鑿證據，甚至無須聲音，多數情況下只憑細微的表情變化便可判斷的一個人說謊與否。編輯當年追劇時，也苦心鑽研了卡爾的「讀心術」。

下面就和大家分享15種常見的肢體語言，學會這些，你就能更容易走進對方的內心，明白對方真實的想法和感受。即使他們沒有說出來，身體語言也會告訴你答案哦。

雙腿交叉通常意味著抵觸或不太認同，這在談判中不是一個好徵兆

Out of 2,000 negotiations videotaped by Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero, the authors of "How to Read a Person Like a Book," there wasn"t a single settlement when one of the negotiators had their legs crossed.

《如何像讀書一樣讀人》的作者傑勒德·尼倫伯格和亨利·H·卡萊羅錄製了2000場談判，其中「只要有談判者雙腿交叉時，就無法達成協議。」

Psychologically, crossed legs signal that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically closed off, which may mean they"re less likely to budge in a negotiation.

從心理學上看，雙腿交叉意味著一個人在精神、情感和身體上自我封閉，這意味著他們可能不願在談判中讓步。

攤開手掌是表現誠實的傳統方式

When someone swears to tell the truth in a court of law, they put one hand on a religious text and raise their other hand into the air, palm facing whoever they"re speaking to.

人們在法庭上發誓講真話時，會把一隻手放在宗教經文上，另一隻手舉在空中，手掌面對說話對象。

That"s because an open palm has been associated with "truth, honesty, allegiance, and submission" throughout Western history.

這是因為在整個西方歷史中，攤開的手掌一直與「真理、誠實、忠誠和順從」聯繫在一起。

眼角沒有皺紋的笑容可能是假笑

If someone"s trying to look happy but really isn"t, you won"t see the wrinkles.

如果有人試圖表現出開心的樣子，但並不是發自內心的高興，那麼你是看不見對方的笑紋的。

More recently, a study from Northeastern University researchers found that people could do a pretty good job of faking a Duchenne smile, even when they weren"t feeling especially happy.

最近，美國東北大學的一項研究發現，人們即使並沒有感到特別開心，也能偽裝出完美的假笑。

It seems safe to say that if the crinkles aren"t there, the person"s probably not genuinely happy. But just because the crinkles are there doesn"t necessarily mean they"re elated.

所以比較保險的說法是，沒有皺紋的笑容證明一個人可能不是真正的快樂。但僅僅因為笑出皺紋，也不能確定一個人真的很開心。

挑眉毛往往是感到不舒服的信號

In the same way that real smiles shape the wrinkles around your eyes, worry, surprise, or fear can cause people to raise their eyebrows in discomfort.

真正的笑容會讓你的眼周出現皺紋，同樣地，擔心、驚訝或恐懼等不適情緒會讓人挑起眉毛。

如果對方模仿你的肢體語言，那麼你們的談話可能進展得很順利

When two people are getting along, their postures and movements mirror each other"s. When your best friend crosses her legs, you will, too. If you"re on a date that"s going well, you"ll both be making the same hand gestures.

當兩人相處得愉快時，他們會模仿對方的姿勢和動作。當你最好的朋友雙腿交叉時，你也會這樣做。如果你的約會進展順利，你們就會做出同樣的手勢。

This is because we mirror each other when we"re feeling a connection, says positive psychologist Barbara Fredrickson.

積極心理學家芭芭拉·弗雷德里克森說，這是因為當我們心靈相通時，我們就會模仿對方。

如果有人和你對視太久，那麼他可能在撒謊

In an attempt to avoid looking shifty-eyed, some liars will purposefully hold their gaze a touch too long, so that it"s slightly uncomfortable, according to behavioral analyst and body language expert Lillian Glass.

據行為分析師、肢體語言專家莉蓮·格萊斯稱，為了避免看起來躲躲閃閃的樣子，有些說謊者故意把眼神接觸拖得太久，以至於讓人感到有些不舒服。

They may also stand very still and not blink.

他們可能還會站著一動不動，眼睛也不眨一下。

一系列肢體動作表示有好感

Attraction isn"t communicated through one signal but a sequence.

傳遞好感不是憑藉單一信號，而是一系列肢體語言。

Neuropsychologist Marsha Lucas suggests one to watch for: "After making eye contact, she looks down a bit, gathers or otherwise preens her hair, and then looks up at you while her chin is tipped."

神經心理學家瑪莎·盧卡斯建議人們留意：「在兩人對視後，對方是否眼神微微向下瞥，擺弄了一下頭髮，然後微抬頭看向你。」

如果有人不停摸臉或搓手，那麼他們可能有些緊張

Some of the most common manifestations of our anxiety? Touching your face and rubbing the skin on your hands. Both can be soothing behaviors when you"re feeling uncomfortable.

焦慮最常見的表現有哪些？答案包括摸臉，搓手。當你感到不舒服的時候，這兩種行為都能起到安撫情緒的作用。

如果有人和你一起笑，那麼他們可能喜歡你

If someone is receptive to your humor, they"re likely interested in you.

如果有人對你的幽默很買賬，那麼他們可能對你感興趣。

Evolutionary psychologists say that humor - and positive reception to humor - play a pivotal role in human development. They serve as a way of signaling a desire for a relationship, be it platonic or romantic.

進化心理學家稱，幽默以及對幽默的積極反應在人類的發展中發揮了至關重要的作用。它們能傳達渴求與對方建立關係的信號，不論是柏拉圖式關係，還是愛欲關係。

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抖腿是內心不安的表現

"Your legs are the largest area of your body," University of Massachusetts professor Susan Whitbourne says, "so when they move, it"s pretty hard for others not to notice."

馬薩諸塞大學教授蘇珊·惠特伯恩稱：「腿部是人體最龐大的肢體部位，所以當腿部有所動作時，很難不讓外人注意到。」

A shaky leg signals anxiety, irritation, or both, she says.

蘇珊說，抖腿表示焦慮、惱怒，或者兩者都有。

淺淺一笑直視對方可能是在試圖放電

Psychologist Ronald E. Riggio"s research suggests that there"s a specific type of smile people display when they"re trying to act seductive.

心理學家羅納德·E·李喬的研究表明，人們在試圖釋放性吸引力時，會散發出特定類型的笑容。

"They typically display positive affect - a slight smile that accompanies direct eye contact, with a slow glance away, but still holding the smile.

「他們通常會表現出積極的情緒——微笑著直視對方，然後保持笑容將目光緩慢移開。」

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眉頭沒有向內聚攏上抬，那麼他可能沒有看上去那麼悲傷

Psychologist Paul Ekman uses the term "reliable muscles" for the muscles in the face that you can"t contract voluntarily.

心理學家保羅·艾克曼用「可靠的肌肉」來形容人們無法自如控制的面部肌肉。

If you observe a person expressing sadness both verbally and facially, but the inner corners of his eyebrows are not going up and in, he may not be experiecing sadness at all. He"s unable to contract these muscles voluntarily despite his best efforts.

如果你發現有人用語言和面部表情表達悲傷，但是他的眉頭沒有上抬聚攏，那麼他可能根本不難過。儘管他已經盡了最大努力，但是他還是無法自如地收縮這些肌肉。

一半的面部表情比另一半明顯，那麼這可能不是真實的情緒

The vast majority of facial displays of emotion are bilateral - that is, they show up on both sides of the face equally. Next time you tell a joke, look to see if her smile is symmetrical when she laughs.

大部分表達情緒的面部表情都是對稱的，也就是說，臉部兩側的表情是對等的。下次你再講笑話時，看看對方的笑容是否是對稱的。

豪放的姿勢意味著權力和成就感

If someone"s leaning back and relaxed, they probably feel powerful and in control. In fact, research has found that even people born blind raise their arms in a V shape when they win a physical competition.

如果一個人放鬆地向後靠，那麼他們可能感覺自己很強大，勝券在握。事實上研究發現，即使是天生的盲人，在體育競賽中取勝時也會舉起胳膊形成V字形。

聳肩是表示困惑的通用肢體信號

The shrug is a good example of a universal gesture that is used to show that a person doesn"t know or doesn"t understand what you are saying.

聳肩是一種通用的肢體語言，它表明一個人不知道或不明白你在說什麼。

編輯：董靜

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