結婚前，先想好這幾個問題

來源 |麥子熟了（ID：maizi8090）

結婚前必需了解對方的哪些情況才能嫁？你們真的準備好迎接共同的生活了嗎？

著名的《紐約時報》「婚前十五問」，列出了婚前必需了解的15個關鍵問題。如果你們在這些問題上存在分歧，在結婚之前不如先思考如何解決。

關於孩子

1、我們要不要孩子？如果要，主要由誰來負責？

Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

關於理財

2、我們的家庭賺錢能力及目標是什麼？消費觀及儲蓄觀會不會發生衝突？

Do we have a clear idea of each other』s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

關於主內主外

3、我們的家庭如何維持？由誰來掌握可能出現的風險?

Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

關於病史

4、我們有沒有詳盡地交換過雙方的疾病史？包括精神上的。

Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

關於相愛

5、我們互相愛的程度，達到彼此的預期了嗎？

Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

關於性愛

6、我們是否能自然、坦誠地說出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐懼？

Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

關於生活

7、卧室會放電視機嗎？

Will there be a television in the bedroom?

關於溝通

8、我們真的能傾聽對方訴說，並公平對待對方的想法和抱怨嗎？

Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another』s ideas and complaints?

關於信仰

9、我們清晰地了解對方的精神需求和信仰嗎？我們討論過孩子將來的信仰問題嗎？

Have we reached a clear understanding of each other』s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

關於朋友

10、我們喜歡並尊重對方的朋友嗎？

Do we like and respect each other』s friends?

關於父母

11、我們能不能看重並尊敬對方的父母？我們有沒有考慮過父母可能會幹涉我們的關係？

Do we value and respect each other』s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

關於家族

12、我的家庭最讓你心煩的事情是什麼？

What does my family do that annoys you?

關於堅守

13、有沒有什麼事情，是我們永遠不會因為婚姻而放棄的？

Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

關於犧牲

14、如果我們中的一人需要離開其家族所在地陪同另一個人到外地工作，做得到嗎？

If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other』s family, are we prepared to move?

關於信心

15、我們是不是充滿信心面對婚姻里的任何挑戰？

Does each of us feel fully confident in the other』s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

結婚之前，先問問彼此這15個問題。如果你們都準備好了，趕緊開始一段新的旅程吧。