我30歲的時候學會的6條人生經驗

6 lessons I』ve learned on reaching 30

I reached 30 and I would love to share what life has taught me till now. Hope you will get some insights.我已經30歲了，現在我想要跟大家分享生活教會我的人生經驗。希望你能得到一些啟示。1. Legitimate suffering is part of life適當的苦難是生活的一部分You cannot escape suffering;conflict is perennial. If you are a part of the problem, then you are a part of the solution too. Just face the conflict and be ready to suffer legitimately.你不能逃脫苦難。矛盾是一直都會有的。如果你成了問題的一部分，那麼你也是解決問題的一部分。只要面對困難，準備好去接受適當的苦難。2. Love eludes when you chase it你追逐愛，愛會跑Love is like a butterfly, it』s hard to catch when you chase it. It slowly lands on your shoulder when you least expect it. 愛就像蝴蝶，當你追尋愛的時候很難抓住愛。當你少有期待的時候，它則會慢慢的落到你肩頭。3. Illusion of control is a mirage控制是海市蜃樓般的幻想Accept the fact that you cannot control everything. If you do so – you will be relieved from the enormous stress of controlling. Moreover, nobody likes a control freak.接受這個你不能控制一切的這個事實。如果你這樣做了---你會從巨大的壓力中解脫出來。而且，沒人喜歡被控制。4. We create our own reality我們創造我們自己的現實生活I used to blame situations initially, now I truly believe in the fact that we create our own reality. Invest in personal charisma to create the situations that favor you.最開始的時候我習慣去指責，現在我真的相信我們能創造自己的現實生活的這一事實。通過增加自己的個人魅力來創造對你有利的情形。5. Excel in what people need要擅長別人有需要的方面It is not enough to pursue the passion you love, it has to be in sync with people』s needs too. Give what people need and find love in it – the universe works that way.追尋你自己的興趣還是不夠的，也還得要與別人的需要同步。提供別人所需要的，並從中尋找到快樂—世界就是以這樣的方式運轉的。6. What you focus on is what you get你所關注的你就你會獲得的This was proven in my case. Focus on the positive and you tend to see the negative aspects in a lighter vein. Similarly, focus on the negative and you tend to see the positive aspects in a cynical way. What you focus on is what you get. It』s all in you.這就是我自己身上例子。關注積極的那一方面，你更能以一種輕鬆愉快的心情來看待不好的那一方面。同樣的，關注消極的方面，你則會更容易用憤世嫉俗的方式來看待積極地一面。你所關注的就是你會獲得的。一切都取決於你自己。