通關36題 | 成就滿滿愛意

This quiz from psychologist Arthur Aron has helped boost intimacy between thousands of strangers, resulting in friendship, romance, and even marriage.

這是非常神奇的36個問題，回答完之後可以達到自我揭露，並且拉近彼此的距離。

In a 1997 SUNY Stony Brook study, psychologist Arthur Aron explored whether intimacy between two perfect strangers could be accelerated by having them ask each other the 36 personal questions below. Since Dr. Aron created the quiz, hes even seen it rekindle romance in long-term relationships. "When you』re first in a romantic relationship, there』s an intense excitement, but then you grow used to each other,」 Dr. Aron told Berkeley News. 「If you do something new and challenging, that reminds you of how exciting it can be with your partner, it makes your relationship better.」

這36題由心理學家Arthur Aron在1997年所作。創作初衷並不是為了浪漫的需要，而是要培養班上學生彼此間信任和親密的感覺。Arthur Aron證明了只要在人格上進行自我揭露，就能快速建立陌生人間信任和親密的感覺。

These questions take about 45 minutes to complete, with each becoming increasingly personal and intense.

全部題目需要花45分鐘完成，每一道都比上一道題更加私密。

Question 1

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

假如可以選擇世界上任何人，你希望邀請誰共進晚餐？

Question 2

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

你希望成名嗎？在哪一方面？

Question 3

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

撥打電話前，你會先練習要說的話嗎？為什麼？

Question 4

What would constitute a 「perfect」 day for you?

對你來說，怎樣才算是「完美」的一天？

Question 5

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

上一次唱歌給自己聽是什麼時候？唱歌給別人聽又是什麼時候呢？

Question 6

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

假如你能夠活到90歲，並且你可以選擇讓你的心智或身體在後60年一直停留在30歲，你會選擇哪一個？

Question 7

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

關於未來你可能怎麼死，你有自己的秘密預感嗎

Question 8

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

列舉3個你和對方共同擁有的特質。

Question 9

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

你的人生中最感恩的事情是什麼？

Question 10

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

假如可以改變你成長過程中的任何事，你希望有哪些改變？

Question 11

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

用4分鐘的時間，儘可能詳細地向對方講述你的人生故事。

Question 12

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

假如明天早上起床後能獲得任何一種能力或特質，你希望是什麼？

Question 13

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

假如有顆水晶球能告訴你關於自己、人生或未來的一切真相，你想知道什麼？

Question 14

Is there something that you』ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven』t you done it?

有什麼事想做很久了？還沒去做的原因是？

Question 15

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

你人生最大的成就是什麼？

Question 16

What do you value most in a friendship?

友情中你最重視哪一個部份？

Question 17

What is your most treasured memory?

你最珍貴的回憶是什麼？

Question 18

What is your most terrible memory?

你最糟糕的回憶是什麼？

Question 19

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

如果你知道自己將在一年內突然死去，你會改變自己目前的生活方式嗎？為什麼？

Question 20

What does friendship mean to you?

友情對你而言意味著什麼？

Question 21

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

愛和感情在你生命里扮演什麼樣的角色？

Question 22

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

輪流分享你認為對方擁有的比較好的性格特點。各自提5點。

Question 23

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people』s?

你的家庭關係親密溫暖嗎？你是否覺得自己的童年比大部分人快樂？

Question 24

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

你與母親的關係如何？

Question 25

Make three true 「we」 statements each. For instance, 「We are both in this room feeling ..."

說出3個含有「我們」並且符合實際情況的句子，比如「我們現在都在這個房間里」。

Question 26

Complete this sentence: 「I wish I had someone with whom I could share ..."

完成這個句子：「我希望可以跟某個人分享……」。

Question 27

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

如果你要成為對方的密友，有什麼事是他或她需要知道的？

Question 28

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you』ve just met.

告訴對方你喜歡他或她的什麼地方。回答此題必須非常誠實，要說出你可能不會對剛認識的人說的事。

Question 29

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

和對方分享你人生中尷尬的時刻。

Question 30

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候？自己哭又是什麼時候？

Question 31

Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

告訴對方，你現在喜歡他或她什麼地方。

Question 32

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

有什麼事是絕對不能開玩笑的？

Question 33

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven』t you told them yet?

如果你今天晚上就會死掉，而且無法與任何人聯繫，你最遺憾還沒有告訴別人什麼事？為什麼還沒說呢？

Question 34

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

你的房子起火了，你所有的東西都在裡面。在救出所愛的人和寵物後，你還有時間可以安全地搶救出最後一件東西。你會拿什麼？為什麼？

Question 35

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

在你所有家人當中，誰的死對你的打擊會最大？為什麼？

Question 36

Share a personal problem and ask your partner』s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

分享你人生中的一個問題，問對方遇到這樣的問題會怎麼做。同時也請對方告訴你，在他或她看來，你對這個問題的感受是什麼。

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