{名媛紳士禮儀第一期} 女士優先？男士優先？

04-07

女士們先生們，我們經常收到這樣的留言：男士們怎樣表現，才算得上有紳士風度呢？這其實是一個非常微妙的問題，而且應當具體情況具體分析。我們發布名媛紳士系列文章第一期，一起探討在女士面前，男士們如何表現出紳士風度。當然，我們都知道「女士優先」的鐵律，但在有些情況下，則必須要男士優先。

Dear ladies and gentlemen, we often receive your questions about gallantry: when and how should men be gallant with women? As you can imagine it is a very subtle question, which highly depends on the situations. Therefore, this is the first article of a series dedicated to all the moments men can demonstrate their gallantry sensibility to women. But even if we generally follow the rule 「Ladies first」, in some situations men have to be first. Let』s find out together how.

首先我們來玩一個小遊戲，下面哪些情況下應該「女性優先」？

We start with a game, in which of the following situation the lady should enter first?

下樓梯時
上樓梯時
去朋友家做客時
上車時
進入電梯
進入餐廳
進入公共場所

你們都答對了嗎？答案就在下面哦！

So did you get it all correct? Here are the answers.

情景1：下樓梯

Situation 1: going down stairs

男士和女士一起來到樓梯面前。當然，如果樓梯足夠寬，那麼兩個人可以並排走。如果樓梯較窄，那麼誰應該先走呢？答案是：男士優先。

A lady and a gentleman arrive in front of stairs. Of course, if they are large enough for two people they can go together. But if not, who should go first? The answer is: the gentleman.

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Princess Madeleine of Sweden at Nobel Prize Gala

原因：很簡單，男士先走保護女士，以防女士不小心摔倒。因為女士們通常穿高跟鞋，下樓梯時會比較危險。

The reason why: it is actually simple; the man needs to go first in order to be able to protect the lady if she falls down. Remember ladies often wear heels, which make the descent particularly dangerous.

情景2：上樓梯

Situation 2: climbing up stairs

情景如上，如果樓梯足夠寬，可以兩人並排走。如果較窄，男士們在這種情況下說「女士優先」，是非常不合適的。

The situation is here the same: the stairs are too large for the couple to climb up together. Here for a gentleman saying 「after you, ladies first」 would not be a proof of good education.

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Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, the former Frances first lady, and Letizia, Queen of Spain

原因：這時與下樓梯時的情況不一樣，女士上樓梯時不大可能會向後摔倒。如果女士先上，男士在後。那麼男士的目光會在哪裡呢？正好跟女士的臀部在一個水平線！相信我，這是女士們不大願意暴露給男士的部位。

The reason why: here we consider the risk of falling backwards is very low, we can not use it as a clue for the answer. Let imagine the lady climbs up first followed by the gentleman. At which level will his head and his eyes be? Right in front of the lady』s behind! And you will agree with me, this is not the part of her anatomy a lady wants to show the most.

情景3：去朋友家做客

Situation 3: at a friends home

假設你們被朋友邀請做客。按響門鈴後，門開了，這時女士優先。

You have been invited as a couple, you arrive at your friend』s place, ring the bell, and the door is now open. Here in most of the cases, the lady should be first.

原因：這是禮貌問題。這種情況下，女士們有可能精心打扮，男士們要表現得有紳士風度，讓朋友們可以先看到美麗的女士，讚美她或者僅僅是要先跟女士打招呼。但如果朋友跟女士相互並不認識，那麼男士要先進門，介紹女士給朋友們認識。

The reason why: politeness, the lady is probably beautifully dressed, we want your friend to admire her first, or simply to greet her first. If the gentleman is the only one to know the friend inviting, then he should go first and introduce the lady.

情景4：上下車

Situation 4: the car

假設面前是一輛轎車，男士們可能會覺得需要為女士們打開車門，然後讓女士先進，其實這也要視情況而定。

The car is here, waiting for the couple to come in. Some gentlemen would think they would be gallant to open the door to the lady and let her go first. It actually depends.

原因：女士進入車子後，還要移動到較遠座位，是非常不禮貌的。所以，如果車子只能從一邊開門，那麼男士要先進，然後移動到較遠的位子上，女士就可以坐在靠近車門的位置，下車時也可以先下。如果車子兩邊都能開門，那麼男士為女士開門後，女士先進入就坐。男士再走到另一邊車門打開入座。

The reason why: We should not let the lady go across the whole back seats to free the seat close to the door for the gentleman coming second. If there is only one door open, the gentleman goes first, take the seat the furthest, and let the lady taking the seat close to the door. Then she would be the first one to go out. But, if the gentleman can walk around the car and enter through the opposite door, then the lady is first at the first door.

情景5：進電梯

Situation 5: the lift

你們在電梯的面前。誰應該先進入電梯呢？男士還是女士？這時還是女士優先，出電梯時也應當女士優先原則。

You arrive at a lift. Who should enter first, the lady or the gentleman? Here it is the lady, and she should also get out first.

原因：禮貌問題。男士們可以先伸手為女士擋住電梯門，等女士先進入電梯後再隨後進入。出電梯時，男士們同樣要擋住電梯門，讓女士們先出去。

The reason why: It simply politeness, the gentleman gives her the priority, hold the lift door for her, watch her elegantly coming in, and going out after. For getting out, the gentleman holds the door with his arm, let the lady get out first as well.

情景6：餐廳

Situation 6: the restaurant

晚餐時刻，已經在一家法國餐廳訂好位置。誰應該先進入餐廳呢？通常是男士，但是..

It is dinner time, and a reservation has been made at a delicious French restaurant. Who should enter first? It used to be the gentleman, but…

原因：傳統上，男士必須先去，因為男士應當是訂位的人，也是買單的人。但是現如今，越來越多的女士們預訂座位，也會買單。如果是女士們訂位，那麼女士們必須先去。

The reason why: Traditionally we considered the gentleman has to come first, as he was the one who booked the restaurant and should then be the one dealing with the waiters. But of course nowadays ladies book restaurant, pay the bill as well, so if a lady has the booking under her name she should enter first!

情景7：公共場所

Situation 7: public places

男士和女士打算去一些公眾場所，例如商店，博物館，車站等等。這時，需要遵循男士優先原則。

Now our happy couple is walking down the street, and would like to enter into a public place, such as a shop, museum, station etc.… Here the gallantry says the gentleman is first too.

原因：男士們要考慮，所去的場所是否適合女士出入。如果不合適，就可以直接離開。因為男士在前面，所以女士們不會給人看到，也就不會讓人覺得她挑錯了地方！

The reason why: he has to judge first if the place is suitable for the lady or not, if it was where they intended to go. In case the place is not, they would both leave, and the lady won』t have given the impression to have made a wrong choice because nobody would have seen her.

讀完這篇文章，您是不是覺得大多數情況下都是「男士優先」。其實，在享受服務，讚美等等令人愉悅的情景下，男士們應該遵從女士優先的法則。希望這篇文章對您有所幫助，如果您有任何問題，或者需要為您的公司定製禮儀課程，歡迎您與我們聯繫！

After reading this you may think it is more often 「gentlemen first」. Actually it is not, for service, honours, everything which is pleasant we let the lady go first. I hope this article has been useful, and if you have any other questions, or your want to organize etiquette classes for your company, you are more than welcome to write to us!

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