人生秘笈（一）20多歲應該明白哪些事兒

02-05

人生秘笈（一）20多歲應該明白哪些事兒

我沒有見過比 Quora 更多雞湯的國外網站了，尤其是在Life hack這個話題下邊。

知乎上很少有人敢寫人生感悟，一方面可能是中國人天生謙虛，另一方面可能是容易吸引鍵盤俠的火力。

順手翻譯了一個很久以前收藏的回答，原問題是「What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their 20s?」 20多歲的時候人們最應該也最難學到的是什麼事兒？

收藏太多，可以做成系列文章了。反正我的20s馬上藥丸，留著也沒用，不如分享給你。今天是這個系列的第一篇。

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Here are some things I really, really wish I knew when I was twenty.

我真的、真的希望，在我二十多歲的時候能明白以下道理：

Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.
戀愛是件痛苦的事情，但不戀愛更痛苦。
The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
比起你工作的地方和你學到的東西，那些你刻意培養的友誼會更加深刻地影響你的人生。
You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions.
你的工作不能代表你，你的錢包厚度不能代表你，你所有資產的總和也不能代表你。
The company does not love you. It has no heart. You are replaceable. Keep your parachute handy.
你的公司並不愛你，它沒有感情。你是可以被代替的。要隨時準備跳槽。
Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well.
沒有什麼比你選擇的結婚對象更能深刻地影響你未來的人生。要想嫁得好，你得選得好。
Love is a commitment.
愛是承諾。
Believe it or not, passions grow out of your values. Make early, wise choices to value what (and who) is good, trustworthy, and praiseworthy.
不管你信不信，激情源自你的價值觀。早點做出聰明的選擇來判斷什麼/誰是好的、值得信賴的，和值得讚揚的。
Integrity preserved is honor won.
時刻保持你的正直，是一種光榮的勝利。
Rejoice in your health. It fades fast.
享受你的健康，它將很快消失。
Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life.
找到你的激情，挑一個業餘愛好，擁有它：可以是攝影、雜耍——甭管是什麼。趁早開始你的10000小時練習，它將改變你的人生。
Don』t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.
不要老跟別人比，這件事只會導致心碎、生氣和不滿。
Most disappointments grow from unmet expectations. Set realistic expectations for yourself, based on your strengths, then strive to exceed them.
很多失望來源於不切實際的期待。為自己設定現實一點的期許，要建立在自己的能力上，然後為超越這個目標而奮鬥。
Don』t drive others to meet expectations they』ve committed to — lead, inspire, and help them do it.
不要驅使他人實現他們許下的目標——引導、激勵，並且幫助他們實現。
Don』t set expectations for others when they havent or cannot commit to them.
在別人還沒答應之前，不要替別人設定目標。
Don』t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective.
別抱怨。與其改變你的處境，不如學著承受，或者改變你的觀點。
Little stuff matters—even in lowly jobs. The boss notices and even if not, your peers and colleagues do.
小事兒很關鍵——即使在卑微的崗位上。不管你的老闆能否注意到你，你的同伴和同事們可以。
Ultimately, privacy is a myth: God sees everything. The cloud records everything. NSA files everything. So, live transparently and dont waste useless energy hiding failures.
根本意義上來說，並無隱私一物可言：上帝看得到所有事。雲端記錄所有事。NSA（美國國家安全保障局）存檔所有事。所以，透明地活著，並且不要在隱藏失敗上做無用功。
Don』t look down on others because they don』t have what you didn』t earn—your intellect, your beauty, and your culture of birth are undeserved gifts…be humble.
不要瞧不起別人，因為他們沒有擁有你的那些——你的聰明才智、你的美貌，你與生俱來的那些都是你額外的贈禮……要謙卑。
Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
失敗是一種機會：沒有任何偉人可以在不失敗的前提下實現那些偉大成就。
Never withhold an apology when it』s merited. Deliver it quickly, sincerely, and personally—before resentment festers.
在必要的情況下，不要拒絕道歉。儘快道歉，真誠道歉，並且以個人名義道歉——要在憤慨加劇之前。
You don』t need to nurture old guilt when youre forgiven. But remembering the shame can help you avoid repeats.
當你被原諒之後，無需再被過去的過失裹挾。但是記住那些羞愧，可以幫助你避免重複犯錯。
The main thing you need to do quickly is to stop doing things quickly. Trade hurry for calm, confidence, and precision.
唯一一件需要你儘快做到的事情是，停止儘快做事。將慌亂改變為鎮定、自信，和認真。
Everybody needs an editor. Everybody.
所有人都需要編輯自己。所有人。
Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
早點完成工作，然後你可以不帶雜念的玩耍。甚至可以更好，將工作當做娛樂，其樂無窮！
Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed. But when a fight picks you, leave everything on the mat and give it your all. Hold nothing back.
別撕逼。真的。像躲避瘟疫一樣躲避撕逼：撕逼中沒有人是贏家，即使你毫髮無損地走開。但是當撕逼找到你時，破釜沉舟地一撕。毫無保留地撕一場。
If youre bored, you』re doing it wrong.
當你感到無聊時，你一定是做錯了。

Im still learning — in fact I haven』t fully appreciated most of the list I made, myself. And I』m still adding to it. But I』m getting better.

我仍然在不斷學習——實際上我並沒有完全做到以上列出的內容，我也一直在增加上述內容。但是我知道我在變得更好。

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