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我今天24歲，我覺得我完全是個屌絲，我浪費了很多很多時間，我怎麼才能振作起來？

02-03

文章轉自Quora，由燁子翻譯。

Is It Too Late?: I am 24-years-old and feel like a complete failure who has wasted many, many years. What can I do to quickly get myself back on track?

（話說這個答案真就是一個大雞湯）

作者：

TED演講嘉賓，2次基金生意，19次馬拉松，2次鐵人三項，在8個國家生活過。

現在趕緊做：

Do this NOW:

任選下邊兩個活動，然後使出你吃奶的勁狂做60秒：

Try and do ONE of these two activities as fast and hard as you can for 60 seconds:

衝刺跑：用你最大的肺活量狂奔60秒。

  • Sprint. A lung busting sprint Im talking about for 60 seconds

俯卧撐：能做幾個就做幾個，如果你覺得太簡單就用指關節撐地。

  • Pushups. As many as you can. If its too easy do them on your knuckles

如果你沒偷懶的話，你將在接下來60秒痛不欲生。

If you do this PROPERLY well done. You should be in immense pain by the 60 seconds end.

你是否意識到你這60秒的痛苦比你見過的95%的人更痛苦？

Do you realise youve just experienced MORE pain in JUST 60 seconds than

95% of the people in your life you will ever meet?

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每天做一遍我說的活動，然後想著每天都有一項挑戰在等著你，之後你不會有很多事情會讓你感到恐懼了，這是很明顯的對比啊！

Now many many things in your life will no longer scare you. Do this daily and then consider the challenges that await you for the day.

They will seem easy in comparison.

做這些還有額外的好處：

Additional benefits include:

HIT訓練是最有效的減脂、增加免疫力，增長精力的訓練。

  • HIT (High intensity) training is the most effective fat burning, immune boosting, energy increasing kind of exercise there is

釋放大腦的多巴胺，這是一種讓身體感到爽的化學物質

  • Releases Dopamine into the brain - the bodies feel good chemical

你會更喜歡鍛煉的，於是你變得更加健康

  • You will likely find you want to exercise longer - so youll get healthier still

你的更加有勇氣（原文是吃青蛙），因為什麼能比身體的痛苦更加直接呢？

  • Youre much more likely to Eat That Frog - because what is worse (really) than immediate intense physical pain

這些可以讓你更能吃苦，運動，紋身，聯繫，還有健身

  • Itll increase your tolerance for pain - helps with sports, tattoos, exercise, and all else physical

然後在接下來的3到6個月不停地做這個！在之後就會變成你的習慣。

NOW Do this over the next 3-6 months aggressively

And then for the rest of your life casually. (All from personal experience)

人際交往：

on relationships:

閱讀

《男人來自火星，女人來自金星》

《愛的五中語言》

《為什麼男人不傾聽，女人看不懂地圖》

這些會解決你近兩年的問題。

  • Read
    • Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus
    • The five love languages
    • Why Men Dont Listen and Women Cant Read Maps
      • These alone will save you around 2 years of problems

用心傾聽，女人會注意到

  • Listen more, with your heart. Shell notice

欣賞她，給她看看你做了什麼

  • Appreciate they way she is - and show her that you do

給她愛的小驚喜（比如下班後給她買一塊巧克力放到她的枕頭底下），這些比哪些誇張的求愛行動強多了。

  • Little gestures of love (e.g. buying her her favourite chocolate bar and leave it under the pillow after a hard day at work) are far more romantic than overblown/romantic cliches/gestures

讚美她，在別人面前讚美她，這會讓她驚喜。

  • Compliment her - in front of other people. Its an amazing feeling for her

看她看的東西，她會感覺到的。

  • Look at her when she isnt watching. She will feel it

整理記錄她喜歡的東西，她的癖好，她有意無意提到的喜歡，一切積極向上的東西。做一個2到4周的日程表，提醒你不斷給她驚喜。

  • Document her favourite things, quirks, what she mentions she likes, ANYTHING positive. Create calendar reminders every 2-4 weeks to randomly surprise her on the basis of what she said. This is an ongoing list

關於性

On sex

多解鎖性愛姿勢，不要敷衍

  • Make sex varied, not perfunctory

先要愉悅她，而不是搞別的

  • Pleasure her first. Not the other way around

讓她先到高潮，之後你會有更好的彙報

  • Read She Comes First. It will pay you back forever

性不只有傳教士姿勢，要解放你的大腦

  • Sex isnt missionary position as hard as you can. Break that mindset

關於做飯

On cooking:

問問你老媽怎麼做出你最愛的美食

然後問問怎麼做出她最愛的

  • Ask your mum to show your how to cook your favourite meal.
    • Then her favourite meal

給你的女友做

  • Cook this for your girlfriend

學習一個食譜，從頭開始學習他們

  • Try follow a recipe. Use Hello Fresh if you want to make it easy to begin with

向你會做飯的朋友學習，學學怎麼做出他們最愛的美食

  • Borrow the cooking expertise of friends that cook - learn how to cook their favourite meals

向你的女友學習

  • Learn from your girlfriend

學會做飯回報無窮，給你的朋友，你約會的女人，你愛的女人做飯，他們都會回報你的。

  • Cooking well will pay you back forever when you cook for friends, the women you date, and the woman youll love

關於職業

On your career:

閱讀

《像CEO一樣思考》

《如何贏得朋友與影響他人》

《關鍵》

  • Read:
    • How to Think Like a CEO
    • How to Win Friends and Influence People
    • Lynchpin

  • 學習:
      • Excel v. well (VBA lookup/Index/Match/3D Sum/$/&/etc)
      • Powerpoint v. well
      • Word v. well
        • 它們會對你的職業發展有極大幫助

    • Learn:
      • Excel v. well (VBA lookup/Index/Match/3D Sum/$/&/etc)
      • Powerpoint v. well
      • Word v. well
        • They will all ALWAYS pay you back and advance your career

    • 要有崇拜的人，學習追隨巨星，網路達人還有大牛
      • 有一天你會需要他的

    • Form allegiances with rising stars, networking masters and some senior folk
      • One day youll need it
    • 學習並且超越
      • 發現，學習，整合，應用，超越她/他

    • Learn from those that have excelled
      • Observe, Learn, Integrate, Apply, Surpass him/her
    • 工作只佔60%，還有40%是玩權力的遊戲
      • 兩手抓兩手都要硬

    • Work is 60% about doing the work well and 40% playing the politics game
      • Do both to the best of your ability
    • 記錄你的成功
    • 當你要加薪升值換工作的時候你會非常樂於做這件事。

    找一些簡歷建議，然後照著改你的簡歷。

    • Document your wins
      • When it comes to salary review/appraisals/job offers youll be happy you did this

    For some resume advice you can check this out.

    關於創業

    On startup:

    • 閱讀
      • 《每周工作4小事》
      • 《個人MBA》
      • 《窮爸爸和富爸爸》
      • 《學習創業》

    • Read
      • The Four Hour Work Week
      • The Personal MBA
      • Rich Dad Poor Dad
      • Lean Startup
    • 提高執行力
      • 有了想法和計劃就得趕緊去做

    • Execution matters more
      • There are words, deeds, and then there is action
    • 一個人就可以開始創業了
      • 然後去尋找團隊，你已經開始做的會吸引更多的人幫助你。

    • Build the startup as much as can ALONE
      • Then find the team. What youve already built will improve the stock of people that want to work with you
    • 注重銷售環節和審批環節
      • 別的事沒那麼重要，這才是真正嚴峻的考驗
      • 這方面要多思考

    • Focus on sales/pre-sales i.e. validation
      • Everything else is fluff. This is the acid test

    For more thoughts on this see here.

    關於健康

    On health

    • HIT運動
      • HIT(140-180 小時) 非常值得做
        • 你會加速新城代謝，燃燒脂肪，更加強壯，更精壯，更健康。

    • HIT it
      • High intensity training (140-180 HR) is the only one worth doing
        • Youll speed up your metabolism, burn fat quicker, and get stronger, leaner and healthier
    • 動起來
      • 從小事做起，你用不著每天運動超過15分鐘就能看到結果

    • Do it
      • Start small if you have to. But you never need to do much more than even 15 minutes a day to see results
    • 如果你受傷了，你就不練了
      • 如果不是哮喘、噁心、呼吸困難，那就沒什麼大事

    • If it isnt hurting. It isnt working
      • If youre arent wheezing/heaving/barely breathing. Its not effective
    • 動力不足？
      • 脫光衣服，在鏡子前吃飯

    • Need motivation?
      • Eat in front of the mirror. Naked

    關於個人成長

    On personal growth

    • 閱讀
      • 《上帝錯覺》
      • 《萬物簡史》
      • 《魔鬼經濟學》
      • 隨便找點你感興趣的，去讀吧

    • Read
      • The God Delusion
      • A Short History of Nearly Everything
      • Freakonomics
      • Pick some diverse topics that you like. Read them
    • 在你感興趣的人身上花時間
      • 可以是舞蹈家，演員，音樂家，企業主，運動員。與他們好好交往，但是不要過線不要逾矩。
      • 你會從他們身上學到很多。

    • Spend time around interesting people
      • It can be dancers, actors, musicians, business owners, sportsmen. As long as its people with a clearly defined PASSION
      • You will learn so much from them
    • 學一門語言
      • 在你可以的時候
      • 可以兩件事一起做
        • 比如，找一個外國女友（我就是這麼做的）

    • Learn a language
      • When you can
      • You can combine one of the above with this
        • e.g. get a foreign girlfriend (is how I did it)
    • 花時間旅行
      • 世界這麼大你真得去看看
      • 試著接觸接觸陌生人
      • 這個目標可以跟別的事一起做
      • 比如我，我在很多國家和城市跑馬拉松，到現在為止已經去了10個國家的18個城市。

    • Make time to travel
      • The world is beautiful youll learn so much
      • Youll also be forced to talk to strangers
      • You can combine this with other goals
        • e.g. I only run marathons in new cities or countries. So far 18 different cities in 10 countries

    關於快樂

    On happiness

    • 多花時間陪你愛的人
      • 朋友家人等等

    • Make time for people you love
      • Friends, family etc
    • 多笑，這是快樂的良藥
    • Laugh. More. Its an amazing medicine
    • 多做體檢，這會預防很多疾病。
    • Follow the health section. It cures so so many bad things (depression, anxiety, body image issues etc)
    • 付出
    • 幫助家人，向慈善組織捐款
      • Whatever it is - it has to be meaningful to you
    • Give back
      • Help a family member, donate to a charity that means something to you, volunteer
        • Whatever it is - it has to be meaningful to you

    總結

    Overall

    • 前邊只有是或者不是
    • 或者做出你的承諾或者無限拖延
      • Either do things with commitment or leave it for later or leave it altogether

    • There is only f*ck yes or hell no
      • Either do things with commitment or leave it for later or leave it altogether
    • 要靠譜
      • 做你自己不要做別人
    • Be reliable
      • To yourself. And then to others
    • 找到你喜歡的事並為之努力
      • 找到的同事一定要全身心投入
    • Find what you love and the working hard will come with it
      • And whilst youre finding it. Work hard anyway
    • 無論你現在的生活多麼艱難都要努力
      • 甚至你是盲人，你沒有腿，或者四肢癱瘓，記住，那不是借口
    • No matter how sh*t your life is or difficult
      • e.g. Youre blind. Have no legs. Are quadriplegic. Remember - there are no excuses.

    這就是生活，全靠你自己

    This life. Its on you.


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