我是怎樣擺脫被動、推動自己取得成果的？

在英文里也有類似這樣的說法：「你是只說不做的人，還是又說又做的人（Are you someone who just talks the talk , or also walks the walk?）」

我以前一直很害羞，根本不是那種能說會道的人，也很少大聲告訴別人我有什麼能力。由於我對自己的工作能力沒什麼信心，所以也很少做事。我不是那種會積极參与事情的人，基本只會把分配給我的任務做好，不會主動做其他事情。

但到了二十四五歲，我對自己的看法發生了很大變化。突然間，我渴望成為更優秀的自己，在人生中做有意義的重要事情。我想成為既能說又能做的人。然而，當時的我離這還差得遠。但漸漸地，我成為了這種人。為達到這一目標，我做了這四件事。

• 培養「我能行」的態度——對我來說，履行、完成許多事情的最大障礙是我自己。我知道，如果要去做事情，並把事情做好，我必須有一種更為積極的態度。大多數人的心態太消極了，總是顧慮重重，給失敗找各種借口。所以第一步是改變你對事物的看法。

• 承認恐懼和疑慮——之所以我很少接受挑戰，最大原因是因為我總害怕失敗。犯了愚蠢的錯誤怎麼辦？把自己弄的很尷尬怎麼辦？這些心態阻止了我參與事情，甚至還阻止了我分享自己的想法。

後來，我意識到，即使是非常成功的人有時也會碰到失敗。想通這一點後，我的大突破就來 了。這些人也不是一帆風順的，但他們與我們的不同之處在於，他們知道失敗是學習、尋找 解決方案、取得成果的過程的一部分。在接受現實（即不是我做的一切事情都能順利進 行），認識到這不一定是件可怕的事情後，我變得更積極主動地迎接新挑戰。

• 認識自己，珍視自己——我一直告訴我的年輕員工：你就是你。你可能不是辦公室里最聰明、最有能力、最有經驗的，但每個人都有自己的才華和優勢，都在努力工作、提高自己的能力。作為你的老闆，我發現了你的這些特質，所以你也應該這樣，只要去做就是了。

我就是這麼做的。我告訴自己，只要相信自己，做自己就好了。雖然我缺乏信心和經驗，但 我確信自己挺聰明的。大多數情況下，我願意努力工作，真誠希望幫助他人取得更好的成果 或結果。

• 認識自己的意圖，珍視自己的意圖——當我盡全力改善眼前情況時，我發現了一些有趣的東西。人們欣賞我的努力，給予我許多支持。所以每當我採取措施，主動幫助對方改善情況，這些努力總能產生回報。即使我不確定該如何做某件事情，別人也總能給我提供指導和建議。
  許多人愛批評人，充滿負能量，成天抱怨。所以只要你比大多數人願意提供更多幫助，光憑這一點，老闆、管理層和同事眼裡的你就和其他人很不一樣了。身為CEO，我可以告訴你，對於願意貢獻自身價值，幫助我、團隊和公司的人，我會十分感激。

當然，你的做事能力也包括培養某些技能和能力。你需要學習做事流程，養成良好的習慣和健全的做事方式。但是，根據我自身經驗以及CEO的角度來看，對大多數人來說，最重要的是完全投入，參與到眼前的任務和挑戰中去。其中，最重要的因素是你的心態和態度。心態和態度好了，既能說又能做的能力也會好起來。

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How I Became A Person Who Can

Drive And Deliver Results!

There』s an expression for this in English. Are you someone who just talks the talk, or also

walks the walk?

Actually growing up, I was shy. So I wasn』t

someone who talked the talk at all. I rarely spoke out and made claims about

what I could do. Later, because I wasn』t so confident in my capabilities as a

professional, I rarely walked the walk either. I wasn』t someone who got

involved or did much beyond what was asked of me.

In my mid-20s though, my view of myself changed in a big way. Suddenly, I

developed a desire to become something much better than I was and pursue something

meaningful and significant with my life. I wanted to be someone who could talk

the talk, and walk the walk. However, I was far from being such a person then.

Gradually, I became one. To achieve this, here are four things I did.

• Develop a can-do
  attitude –
  For me, the biggest obstacle for doing and achieving many things was myself. If
  I was going to go after things and make them happen, I knew I had to have a more

  positive attitude. For most people, their mindset is too negative. They always have their doubts and excuses why

  something can』t happen. So the first step is changing how you view things.

• Acknowledge
  my fear and doubts – The biggest reason I rarely took on challenges
  was because I was always afraid of failing. What if I made stupid mistakes? What
  if I embarrass myself? This held me back from not only getting involved, but even
  from just sharing my ideas.

My big breakthrough

came when I realized that even highly successful people fail sometimes. They

don』t enjoy it any more than the rest of us. The difference is they recognize that

failing is part of the process of learning, finding solutions, and attaining a

result. As soon as I was able to accept that not everything I did would go

well, and that this wasn』t always viewed as a terrible thing, I became much

more proactive about taking on new challenges.

• Recognize
  and value who I am – As I always tell our young staff, you are who
  you are. You may not be the smartest, most capable, most experienced person in
  the room, but each one of you has your talent and strengths. And each one of
  you has the ability to work hard and improve. As your employer, I recognize
  these things. So you should too, and just go for it.

That』s what I did. I

told myself that I just had to just trust myself and who I was. Although I

lacked confidence and experience, I was pretty sure I was reasonably smart.

Mostly though, I was willing to work hard and sincere in my desire to help

others attain a great result or better outcome.

• Recognize
  and value my intentions– I discovered something interesting when I tried
  my best to contribute to a situation. People appreciated my effort and gave me
  a lot of support. So whenever I』d take some initiative and offer my help to a
  situation, my efforts were always reciprocated. Even if I wasn』t sure how to do
  something, I』d always get whatever guidance and advice that was available from
  others.

Many people are critical and negative.

They whine and complain. So just the fact that you』re offering more help than

most others, you』re already separating yourself from them to your boss,

management, and colleagues. As a CEO, I can tell you that I really appreciate

anyone who tries to provide their value and benefit to me, their team, and our

company.

Of course,

your ability to do things also involves developing certain skills and

capabilities. You need to learn processes, good habits, and sound approaches to

doing things. But from my own experience early on and from my view as a CEO

now, the critical thing for most people is just getting yourself to fully

commit to and get involved in the tasks and challenges you face. And the

biggest factor for doing this has to do with your mindset and attitude. If these

are good, then so will your ability to become someone who can both talk the

talk and walk the walk.

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