事業成功才是人生幸福的前提？你可能錯了！

事實上，我相信大部分人想的剛好跟我的題目是反的。他們會認為——成功的事業，更幸福的生活。也就是說，你事業上的成功將會給你帶來更幸福的生活。但我看過太多與此不太一樣的例子。我遇到過很多擅長自己事業的人。他們在頂尖公司里爬到了高層的位置，給自己賺到了一個不錯的生活水平。他們實現的事情，就是被大多數人稱之為事業成功。

事業的成功並不意味著更幸福的生活

當你和他們交談時，的確，很多人對自己的整體狀況還是感覺很不錯的。但是，其他一些人呢，並沒有覺得他們所做的事有多麼令人有滿足感。他們甚至不太喜歡自己做的事情。他們覺得這只是一份工作，是他們用來謀生的手段而已。他們並不覺得自己所做的事情有什麼吸引力，更別說什麼激情了。因此，他們既對自己的生活感到不滿又對自己的未來感到悲觀。年齡越大，這種感覺就越強烈。

但喜歡自己事業的人往往對生活有更積極的看法。他們在處理事情時更有動力和活力。他們感到更有成就感和滿足感。總而言之，這些都對你如何看待自己的生活有很大的影響。原因如下：

1) 當你不喜歡你所做的事情時，很難真正地享受它。成就感、意義、熱情。你認為這些事情對你在生活中尋找的成功來說很重要嗎？如果答案是肯定的，那麼對你的事業感到快樂將會是一件很重要的事情。

舉個例子吧，我有一個朋友，他有一份不錯的工作，而且過的也不錯。但是他卻不是很享受自己做的事情。不管我們什麼時候見面，他總是在抱怨。他會說很多充滿負能量的事情。他沒怎麼說自己在做什麼事情，他更多地是在講，自己希望去做些什麼。

做一些你不喜歡的事情會影響你的精神狀態、你的態度以及你對生活中許多事物的看法。我是說，如果你醒著的一半時間都在做一些你並不是那麼在意的事情，那麼你如何會感到成功呢？

2）看起來好的東西並不總是覺得很好——這恰恰描述了我的第一份工作。雖然不管怎麼看我都不算是公司的大牛，但是我總是能不斷升職。所以你也可以說我的事業發展得挺好。

當大家了解我的工作時，他們往往會說:「哇，你在美泰公司工作(全球最大的玩具公司)！」或者，「你以設計玩具而謀生嗎？那真是太酷了!」但我其實並沒有他們所說的那麼快樂。因為我對自己所做的事情並不感興趣，對自己的生活感到很不快樂。與此相反，我經常感到內心空虛和缺乏靈感。雖然那時我還不成熟，但我知道我的生活不應該這樣。我應該為自己的未來感到興奮。但我沒有。

3）你的職業會影響你對其他事情的看法——追求並做你喜歡做的事情會徹底改變你對事物的看法。當我開始做我喜歡做的事情時，它改變了我對自己的看法，它改變了我做事的方式，也改變了我為自己尋找的成功的方向。在我的職業生涯中，我感受到的這種更大的成就感影響了我生活的方方面面。我變得更努力，更有目的性地對待我所做的一切。

也許你並不會因為做你最喜歡做的事情而變得很有錢。但是希望你能夠賺足夠的錢來繼續自己想做的事情。同時，你會以其他有意義的方式來衡量你的成功。

4）做你喜歡做的事情是獲得更大成功的關鍵——很多人都恰恰搞反了。當他們看到一個精力充沛、快樂的成功人士時，他們認為成功人士的幸福源於他的成就。能賺很多錢的人是令人尊敬的，他對自己的狀態也有更強的控制力。當然，他是快樂的！

但對我認識的大多數成功人士來說，成功的最大原因是他們在做自己真正喜歡的事情。他們更專註、更投入。他們更努力地工作，因為他們想要在所在領域更擅長。想像一下，如果你每天醒來都有類似的感覺，你會有怎樣的成就。

今天的職業選擇比以往任何時候都多

聽著，在你父母的那一代人中，機會和選擇的機會要少得多。因此，一個好的職業是唯一的目標。事實上，在他們的時代去追求更快樂的事業甚至算是輕率和不負責任。沒有人敢抱怨他們在做的事。只要有一份穩定的工作來支持他們就足夠了。即使你想做些不一樣的事情，你還有其他的選擇嗎？

當然，事業的成功永遠是你的首要目標。你需要有能力為你的家庭和未來提供幫助。但是時代變了。我們生活在一個充滿成長和機遇的時代。對於很多人來說，追求並且能夠做一些你真心感興趣的事情是完全在你的能力範圍之內的。事實上，如果你想擁有一個成功的事業和生活，你更應該這麼做。

所以簡而言之，在你的職業生涯中不要低估追求幸福的程度會對你的成功產生多大的影響。並且不僅是你事業上的成功，還有你人生的整體成功。是的，事業的成功往往會帶來更快樂的生活。但事實並非總是如此。另一方面，追求更快樂的事業將會幫助你獲得更成功的生活，想想那些你認識的，真正享受自己事業的人。

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Happier Career, Successful Life

Actually, I believe most people will think the opposite. Theyll think, Successful Career, Happier Life. That your career success will lead to a happier life. But Ive seen too many instances where this isnt necessarily so. Ive met many people who are good at what they do. They climb to higher levels in top companies and earn a good living. They achieve the things that most people equate to career success.

A successful career doesnt always lead to a happier life

When you talk to them, yes, many feel good about their overall situation. But many others I speak to dont find what they do to be very fulfilling. They dont even like what they do that much. Its their job. How they make their living. They dont feel engaged doing what they do, let alone any passion for it. As a result, they dont feel that good about their life or positive about their future either. The older they get the more they feel this way.

But people who enjoy their career tend to have a much more positive view of things. Theyre more motivated and energetic in their approach to things. They feel greater fulfillment and satisfaction. These all have a big impact on how you feel about your life, overall. Heres why.

1) Hard to feel good when you dont enjoy what you do – Fulfillment. Meaning. Passion. Do you believe these are important to the success you seek in life? If so, then feeling happy about your career is going to be quite important.

For instance, a friend of mine has a good job and makes a good living, but doesnt enjoy what he does. Whenever we get together, he complains a lot. He says a lot of things that are negative. He doesnt talk much about what hes doing. Hes always talking about what he wishes he was doing.

Doing something you dont enjoy affects your state of mind, attitude, and way you feel about many things in your life. I mean, how do you feel successful if for half your waking hours youre doing something you dont care that much about?

2) What looks good doesnt always feel good – This describes exactly my first job. I wasnt a superstar by any means, but I got regular promotions in the company I worked for. So you could say that my career was going well.

When people found out what I did, theyd say, 「Wow, you work for Mattel (the worlds #1 toy company)!」 Or, 「You design toys for a living? Thats so cool!」 But I never felt the same way about my situation as they did. Because I had little real interest in what I did, I felt far from happy about my life. Instead, I often felt empty and uninspired. Although I was immature back then, I knew that my life shouldnt feel like this. I should feel excited about my future. But I didnt.

3) Your career affects how you view other things - Pursuing and doing what you enjoy completely changes how you view things. When I started doing something I enjoyed, it changed how I viewed myself. It changed how I did things, and the type of success I sought for myself. This greater fulfillment I felt in my career influenced many other aspects of my life. I became more hardworking and purposeful towards everything I did.

Perhaps you wont become rich doing what you enjoy most. But hopefully, youll be successful enough financially doing it. And youll view and measure your success in other ways that are meaningful to you.

4) Doing what you enjoy is the key to greater success - Many people have it backwards. When they see an energetic, happy person who is successful, they think his happiness is a result of his success. The person makes a lot of money, is respected, and has more control over his situation. Of course, hes happy!

But for the most successful people I know, the biggest reason for their success is that theyre doing something that they genuinely enjoy. Theyre more dedicated and engaged. They work harder because they want to become very good at what they do. Imagine what you could achieve if you woke up feeling a similar way each day.

More career choices are available today than ever before

Listen, in your parents generation, there were far fewer opportunities and choices. So a successful career was the one and only objective. In fact, pursuing a happier career in their time was even frivolous and irresponsible. Nobody dared to complain about what they were doing. Just having a steady job to support them was enough. Even if you wanted to do something different, what other options were available to you?

Of course, a successful career is always your first objective. You need to be able to provide for your family and future. But times have changed. We live in an amazing time and place of growth and opportunities. For many people today, pursuing and doing something that you genuinely enjoy is also well within your ability to achieve. In fact, it even makes sense for you to do this if you want to have a more successful career, and life.

So my simple message is this. Dont underestimate how much pursuing happiness in your career impacts your success. And not just your career success, but the overall success that you feel towards your life as well. Yes, a successful career often results in a happier life. But thats not always the case. On the other hand, pursuing a happier career will help you achieve a more successful life, whatever that may be to you. Just think about the people you know who really enjoy what theyre doing.