如何做到「愛吧，像從來沒受過傷害」一樣？

01-28

之前看我叫金三順里說的這句台詞，當年看覺得很矯情，現在經歷一些後，突然明白了這句要做到有多難。請問要如何能做到呢？

補充：最近讀文章看到原來這句話是出自一位名字叫Alfred D"Souza的神父，他的這段話能很好的回答你的問題。"happiness is a journey,not a destination."幸福不是終點，幸福是過程，沒有通往幸福的道路，幸福是道路本身，不要等待幸福來臨，要發現每一天的幸福。原文如下:

For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin , real life.

But, there was always some obsacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinnished business, time still to be served or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that there is no way to happiness.

Happiness is the way.

So treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you share it with someone special, someone special enough to spend your time with. Make the most of your time. Don』t waste too much of your time studying, working, or stressing about sth that seems important. Do what you want to do to be happy but also do what you can to make the people you care about happy. Remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting until you take your last test, until you finnish school, until you go back to school, until you have the perfect body, the perfect car, or whatever other perfect thing you desire.

Stop waiting until the weekend, when you can party or let loose, until summer, spring, fall or winter, until you find the right person and get married, until you die, until your born again, to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So work like you don』t need the money, Love like you have never been hurt, and dance like no one』s watching.

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@香草叫化骨第一次被邀答這種問題！沒有什麼高深的見解，隨便說說！人生對問題的看法一般會經歷三個階段：看山不是山，看山是山，看山不見山。看山不是山的階段，面對問題，選擇的是一種抗拒的態度，理解不了，只能逃避，只能不去面對，靠雞湯活著；看山是山的階段，開始敢於面對問題，能意識到問題需要解決，不再無謂的抗爭，明白過去發生的一切，都是我們的一部分，不管那是笑或淚。承認那些人那些事，坦誠的面對自己的一切，勇敢或脆弱，快樂或悲傷，也有解決問題的能力，但缺少那人卻在燈火闌珊處的高度；看山不見山階段，經歷了大風大浪，積累了豐富的人生閱歷，不以物喜，不以己悲，得之我幸，失之我命，內心堅定，不受外界干擾，心不動，風也不動。

「愛吧，就像沒有受傷過」這種狀態應該是處於一和二之間的階段，沒有完全排斥傷害，也沒有完全接受曾經所經歷的，但這種狀態至少是向上走的。個人認為，在這個問題上沒有捷徑可走，經歷多了，歲月會告訴你答案，所以大膽的往前走，穿過更多的風雨，你會知道，受過的傷是人生多麼重要的一部分。

以上都是瞎說，不一定準確，酌情吸收。

戀愛這事，最可怕的就是對以前念念不忘。如果想愛，就給予所有的信任，這樣你就會很幸福。還有呢，如果你的伴侶如果真的背叛了你，遲早有一天會被你知道的，到了那時候就一定要堅決徹底絕不回頭。不謝。