名媛紳士禮儀第三期：婦女節快樂！男士們四種展現紳士風度的行為

女士們先生們，今天是婦女節。今天我們將為您介紹，在女士們面前的四種紳士行為，以表達對女士們的尊重。真正的紳士必定有著良好的教養。

Dear ladies and gentlemen, today we celebrate women』s day. Therefore, we will introduce today 4 chivalrous gestures gentlemen may accomplish towards women, to remind them how important they are. Manners make the man!

幫女士穿上外套

He helps her to put her jacket on, not off

應該怎麼做：準備出門時，男士應當站在女士身後，幫她撐起外套讓她可以輕鬆地把胳膊伸進袖子里，再幫她披好外套。

Do:When preparing to go out for a nice evening out, the gentleman would grab the coat he knows the lady will wear and hold it behind her so she can easily slip her arms into it. He pulls it over her shoulders and wrap it around her.

需要注意：披好外套後，不需要幫她系扣子，也不需要幫她把頭髮整理好。對她的幫助點到即可，而不是把她當成小姑娘照顧。同時，也不建議幫女士們脫外套，不然就顯得有點太過「熱心」了。

Don』t: Do not button the jacket for her, nor should you be the one to pull her hair out from under the jacket. You want to aid her, not baby her. Also, I wouldn』t advise helping her take her jacket off. That just seems a little overly 「helpful」.

幫女士撐傘

He holds the umbrella for her

應該怎麼做：幫女士撐傘是更為常見的一個紳士行為，不僅實用性強，還能使雙方距離貼近，情感上也更加親近。男士可以讓女士靠近，將雨傘撐開，最好要稍向女士那邊傾斜。

Do:Holding an umbrella is a more usual gesture which can be simultaneously practical as well as getting you two closer, both physically and emotionally. The gentleman draws her close and and holds the umbrella over both, make sure to cover her a bit more though.

需要注意：如果女士有自己的雨傘，那麼男士們再要求和女士共撐一把傘就不大合適了。

Don』t:If she also has her own umbrella, it would not be proper for a gentleman to ask her not to open it, in order to be closer to her.

幫女士拉開椅子

He draws the chair for her

應該怎麼做：在特殊場合，男士們這樣做是很浪漫的。只需要將椅子稍微向外拉開，讓女士剛好可以進入座位前，待她要坐下時，再將椅子稍向前移，使她剛好能坐在椅子中間。這個動作是十分紳士的！

Do: For special nights only, the gentleman can add a touch or romance: the proper way of doing this is to draw the chair out just enough for her to slide between the chair and the table, then as she』s bending to sit, slide the chair enough under her so her behind makes contact with the middle of the seat. Such a traditional chivalrous move!

需要注意： 如果只是在家裡吃頓便飯，那麼男士們可以無需站起等待女士完全入座。另外，如果女士中途離席去洗手間再回來就座，男士們也無需再起立幫她拉開椅子，因為這時女士們可能並不希望引起過多關注。

Don』t:You do not have to do the whole standing up and waiting for her to sit when it』s just a casual dinner at home. Also, you shouldn』t stand up as she is getting up and returning from the restroom. That』s drawing an unnecessary amount of attention which she is not looking for.

幫女士拿東西

He helps her carry things

應該怎麼做：如果看到女士拿了很多東西，而男士沒有，那麼男士應當主動提供幫助（無需幫她拿錢包）。如果雙方手裡都拿了很多東西，那麼在碰到障礙物或者進門時，男士們也要先去移開障礙物或前去幫她開門。

Do: Particularly if it looks like she』s struggling. Also, if the gentleman is not carrying anything and she is (besides her purse)， then he should offer to help her. Also, he should go first to open the doors or for any obstacle if they both have their hands full of belongings.

需要注意：提供幫助前禮貌地詢問「我能幫您拿一些嗎」或「我來拿可以嗎」，而不要直接說「把那個給我」或「你拿不動那個」。不要讓她感受到自己的力量被低估了。

Don』t: Make a suggestion in the way of 「Can I take that for you?」 or 「Let me take that?」 rather than outright stating 「Give that to me」 or 「That』s too heavy for you.」 Do not assume she is not strong enough to carry something.

這些小動作對男士們來說只是舉手之勞，但卻可以增加生活的情調和樂趣。感謝越來越多的人對我們的關注，祝「婦女節快樂」！

These small gestures do not cost much energy, but it can easily add so much romance in your daily life. There is always more of you reading us, thank you so much and happy women』s day!

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