到底怎樣才能提高"職商"！

我之前已經寫了兩篇關於職商的文章，希望你在閱讀後已經知道了為什麼職商對成功如此重要以及什麼是職商。這篇文章里，我將跟大家討論一個很有價值的大問題，那就是我們到底應該怎麼樣提高職商，也就是CSIQ?

跟大多數人一樣，我在初入職場時職商很低。這很正常，畢竟大家都是剛剛起步。作為職場菜鳥的我們缺乏經驗，對現實和成功的理解可以說是很傻很天真。後來當我清楚地認識到我需要改變自己的想法時，我開始留意身邊的很多事情。下面便是我做過的有利於提高職商的五件事情。

做成功的學生

很早的時候我就意識到如果想取得更多成績，我必須更深入地了解人們是怎樣在職場中取得成功的，需要了解到底是什麼使這些人取得了更多的成績。簡而言之，我要做成功的學生。要想提高職商，第一件事就是確立這個基本方向。

對我來說，這意味著我不能僅僅因為其他人告訴我應該做某事而去做這件事情。不能一味地只是想完成任務卻不去理解自己做這件事情的目的。這意味著除了知道應該做什麼之外，還要知道自己為什麼以及怎樣去做。為了達到這種程度的理解，我學會了不僅要問「是什麼」，更重要的是要問「怎麼樣」以及「為什麼」。

不要只在意自己的想法，多去了解別人怎麼想

現實就是，你無法決定自己是否被錄用，無法決定自己是否能升職。你無法給自己發工資，也沒法自己創造新的機會。這一切的決定權都在別人手裡，你是否能取得成功也跟他們息息相關。

意識到這一點之後，我開始更多地注意老闆、經理和上級在評估優秀人才時最看重什麼。我試著找出在他們眼裡到底是什麼使優秀的求職者脫穎而出以及我怎樣才能從中獲益。

我遇見的多數求職者都太注重他們自己的想法和對事物的看法。他們很少會去在意他人的想法。但是，要想在職場中取得成功，你首先要搞清楚對你的成功有生殺大權的決策者們最看重的品質、能力和成績是什麼。這一點也是提高職商的基礎。

學習成功人士的思維

你想加快成長的步伐，想快速取得成功嗎？要想做到這些其實不難，你要做的就是向成功人士們學習。我很早就意識到我不用自己去重新發明或摸索新的成功方式。那些最佳的執行方案、好習慣和明智的舉措早已經存在了，我要做的就是想辦法找到這些方法、加強理解，應該模仿成功人士的做法。

曾經一個求職者告訴我他在一次活動中恰好坐在副總裁旁邊，他便開口問了一些職業問題。「這是我第一次向一個層次這麼高的人提問。不過他很樂意告訴我他的日常工作以及他怎樣完成自己的工作。」他說道，「我們的對話真的讓我更好地理解了他在工作中處理的各種問題，我知道了他的工作是多麼的不容易。除此之外他還要達到上級對他的期望。這讓我知道了如果我以後想坐到他的位置現在應該怎樣提高自己。」

當然，如果你想在這些重要的職位或環境中表現優秀一些，這種第一手的經驗將有利於你增強對這些職位和環境的理解。但是還有一種快速高效的方法來學習怎樣在你理想的職位上取得成功，那就是從你平時遇到或交往的人身上學習他們的經驗和見識。

找到哪些是經過實踐的確有效的職業成功理念，按照這些理念去做

做好一件事情的幾大關鍵要素通常可以從已經驗證的概念和做事方法中學到。所以我之前一直努力跟別人學習這些重要的理念和方法。跟其他事情一樣，職業成功植根於基本的真理和現實。下面是我學到的一些東西，也是我經常跟別人分享的。

? 你的職業會陪伴你很久

? 你今天所做的一切都會影響你明天所能到達的高度

? 明智的職業決策無關好壞與對錯，只跟你最看重的東西有關

? 你所在的平台的限制將會成為你自身受到的限制

? 你的各種證書可能會幫你進入面試，但是你能否獲得這份工作取決於你的經歷

? 你有多熱愛自己的工作或工作多努力這些都不重要，關鍵是你能否出色地完成工作

? 我們只為價值買賬

? 在自己不喜歡的領域成功比在自己喜歡的領域取得成就難得多

總而言之，理解並接受這幾項基本的概念後，你便可以做出更好的職業選擇和決策，可以邁出更堅實的步伐。你所遵循的職業成功概念有哪些呢？

要知道事物都是相對的

每個人的父母都想給孩子最好的東西，我們都有朋友、同事、親人和導師，他們都希望我們能開心生活，取得成功。但是不管別人給你什麼樣的意見，你都要考慮自己的性格、愛好、看重的事情、職業目標和對成功的看法，然後再做決定。因為這所有的一切都是相對的。

舉例來說，如果我給10個人提供同樣的工作，可能會有一半人接受，剩下的一半拒絕。也可能有8個、5個、2個人甚至沒有人接受。不管哪種情況出現，這些人的選擇都沒有對錯或好壞之分。他們的選擇取決於他們自己和追求的目標。在你做出可能影響你一生的工作變動或職業選擇時，一定要把這些牢記在心。

我在初入職場時，經常會向別人請教我到底該怎樣做決定，向他們學習。當然，這些很珍貴，我很感謝他們分享的一切。同時，我也知道怎樣看待和使用這些指導和建議的最終決定權在我。畢竟，他們不是你。

提高職商不是一朝一夕可以完成的，這是一個過程，需要時間。你應該不斷地去學習理解怎樣才可以做出明智的決定、抓住更好的機會、在工作中表現得更優秀、到達下一個高度、在眾人中脫穎而出等。你要多跟成功人士交流，了解他們的做事方式。然後選擇自己要走的路。因為最後，最關心、對自己的成功產生最大影響的人是你自己。這就是為什麼如果你想做出更多的成績，職商，也就是CSIQ對你至關重要。

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How To Develop Your Career Sense

From my two previous articles on career sense, I hope you have a clearer idea now about why career sense is so essential to your success and what exactly is career sense. Now comes the big, money question. How do you develop your career sense, or your Career Success IQ (CSIQ)?

Like most people, my career sense was terrible early in my career. But that』s typical of

everyone who』s starting out. You lack experience and your understanding of the real world and how to become successful in it are simple and even na?ve. When it became clear to me that I needed to improve that understanding, I began paying more attention to many things. Here are five key things I did that helped me improve my career sense.

Become a student of success

Early on, I realized that if I wanted to become more successful I needed to have a deeper sense of how career success is achieved. I needed to understand the things that allow some people to achieve greater success over others. In short, I needed to become a student of success. Developing your career sense begins with having this fundamental orientation.

For me, this meant not just doing things because others are telling me that I』m supposed to do it. And not being a taskmaster without a good understanding of the purpose of what I』m doing. Beyond just understanding what I should do, it meant also understanding how and why and I should do it. To gain this level of understanding, I taught myself to not just ask the what questions, but more importantly, the how and why ones.

Get outside your own head and into the head of others

The reality is, you don』t hire or promote yourself. You don』t approve your own salary or give yourself new opportunities. It』s others who make these decisions and determine your success.

With a clear understanding of this, I began to pay more attention to what my boss, my management, and top employers, in general, valued and cared about most when assessing top talent. I tried to identify the things that separated average from outstanding candidates in their eyes and that would most help me stand out over others.

Too many candidates I meet care too much about what they think and how they view things. They don』t pay nearly as much attention to what others think. But to be more successful in your job and career, you need to first recognize those qualities, capabilities, and achievements that matter most to the key decision-makers who can determine your success. Improving your career sense also begins with this basic understanding and orientation.

Tap into the minds of successful people

Want to speed up your development and ability to achieve your career objectives? Actually, it』s simple. Learn from those who already do well what you also want to do well. I also recognized early on that I didn』t have to reinvent, discover, or figure out new ways to do the things I wanted to do well. Best practices, good habits, and smart approaches already existed. I just needed to find ways to identify, understand, and copy how others do things who are successful at what they do.

One candidate told me how he found himself sitting next to a VP in his company at an event and asked him about his career. 「It was the first time I ever asked this to someone so senior. But he was very willing to telling me about his daily job and how he managed his role,」 he described. 「Our conversation really helped give me a better understanding of the issues he has to deal with and how tough it is to perform as a senior executive, including the expectations he needed to meet from his top management. That helped me know what I needed to do to prepare myself if I wanted to take on his level of responsibility someday.」

Of course, first-hand experience will develop your understanding of key roles and situations that you want to perform well in. But another fast, effective way to learn what it takes to become successful in the situations you』re in or hope to be in someday is to learn from the experience and insights of those you interact with and meet.

Identify and follow tried and true career success concepts

The key success factors to doing something well are typically captured in proven concepts and approaches to doing it well. So I also tried to learn from others what some of these key career success concepts and approaches are. Like everything else, career success is rooted in basic truths and realities that lead to greater success. Here are just a few that I learned early on and often share now with those I coach.

? Your career lasts a long time

? Everything you do today impacts what you can achieve tomorrow

? Good career decisions aren』t about good or bad, or right or wrong. They』re relative to what』s most important to you.

? Your platform』s limitations will also be your limitations

? Your qualifications and credentials may get you the interview, but it』s

the quality of your experience that gets you the job

? It』s not about how much you care or how hard you work, it』s about how well you do your job.

? We』ll pay for value

? It』s much more difficult to become successful at what you don』t enjoy than what you enjoy

Understanding and embracing basic career success concepts help you make much better job choices and career decisions, and take a more solid approach to your career,

overall. What are the career success concepts that you follow and live by?

Understand that everything is relative – Everyone has a mom and dad who wants the best for you. We all have friends, colleagues, relatives, and mentors who want us to be successful and happy. But whatever guidance and advice that you』re given, you have to weigh it against your own personality, interests, priorities, career objectives, and view of success. Because it』s all relative.

For instance, if I offered 10 people the same job, maybe five would accept it and five would reject it. Maybe eight, five, two, or even nobody would accept the offer. No matter which scenario, nobody』s decision can be viewed as right or wrong, or good or bad. It all depends on each person and what he』s looking for. That』s important to understand when you』re making potentially life-changing job moves and career decisions.

Seeking career advice and gaining career insights from others is something I did a lot early in my career. And I respected and appreciated everything others shared with me. At the same time, I also understood that it was up to me to decide how to assess and apply the guidance and advice that I was being given. Because in the end, they』re not you.

Developing your career sense isn』t rocket science. It』s a process. It takes time. You need to be curious about what making good career choices, capturing better opportunities, performing better in your job, achieving the next level of your career, standing out over others, etc. involves. You need to talk to successful people and understand how they do things. And then develop your own solid approach to pursuing your own success. Because ultimately, nobody is going to care more about or have more of an impact on your career success than you. That』s why improving your career sense, or Career Success IQ (CSIQ), is so essential if achieving greater success is your objective.

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