{優雅淑女禮儀第一期｝優雅淑女一定不會做的8件事

我們收到很多女士的來信，詢問怎樣才能變得更加優雅，怎樣才稱得上是優雅的女士。其實，穿著漂亮的衣服並不代表優雅，優雅是一種貫穿每時每刻的生活方式和態度。在接下來幾周，我們會發布「優雅淑女禮儀」系列文章，從走姿，講話，穿衣等方面分析如何才能更加優雅。今天為本系列第一期：優雅淑女一定不會做的八件事。女士們，準備好了嗎？

Ladies, many of you have been asking us how to be elegant, and how elegant women should behave. Being elegant is not just choosing beautiful clothes, it is a way of life for every instant. Therefore, we inaugurate a new series of articles: 「the etiquette of an elegant lady」. We will publish during the following weeks about how an elegant lady should walk, speak, get dressed etc. Today we start the first lesson: the eight attitudes an elegant lady should definitely avoid. Ladies, are you ready?

不大聲講話

Lesson 1: She doesn』t speak loudly

優雅的女士講話聲音足以讓周圍的人聽見，但是又不至於太大聲。兩個理由：首先她不希望打擾到房間內其他沒有參與談話的人；其次她並不需要靠大聲說話吸引別人的注意力，她的語言本身就有足夠的吸引力。

An elegant lady uses a voice strong enough for people seated nearby her to hear her, but not people in the entire room. There are two reasons for this. First, she doesn』t want to bother the people she didn"t intend to talk to. Second, an elegant lady doesn』t need to speak loud for people to be willing to listen her, what she says is smart enough for that.

建議：聲音大小讓周圍2米內的人能聽到就可以了。

My advice: only people within 2 meters around you should be able to hear you, not more.

不大聲笑

Lesson 2: She doesn』t laugh loudly

優雅的女士不會讓自己的笑聲吵到不相干的人，因為別人對講話的內容可能並不感興趣，也不知道在笑什麼。優雅的女士對此深諳於心。

For the same reason, she doesn』t want to bother those who were not taking part of the joke. They probably didn』t hear the joke, so they don』t need to hear the laugh. The elegant lady respect that.

建議：不要大聲地笑，如果天生大嗓門，要學會控制笑聲大小。

My advice: never exaggerate your laugh, if you have a natural loud one, simply learn how to control it.

不說人閑話

Lesson 3: She is not into gossips

優雅的女士從不背地說人閑話。為什麼？因為今天能跟你議論別人不好的人，明天也有可能跟別議論你的不好。優雅的女士不會這麼做。

An elegant lady doesn』t gossip nor talk about negative information regarding somebody else. Why? Because if you do so, we could think you would also gossip about us one day.

建議：如果有人跟你議論別人的閑話，只要禮貌地聽就好了，不必表現出特別的興趣。

My advice: If somebody is talking about gossip, you may listen politely, without showing a particular interest.

禮貌待人

Lesson 4: She is always polite

「請」「謝謝」「不客氣」是優雅的女士的常用語。優雅的女士不說粗話，從不破口大罵。她會用禮貌和精緻的語言來表達自己的意思，但又不會矯揉造作。

「Please」, 「thank you」, 「my pleasure」, 「you are welcome」are essential parts of her vocabulary. Of course, she doesn"t use slang words, doesn』t swear. On the contrary, she uses sophisticated words to express her meaning, but her politeness should never seem exaggerated.

建議：禮貌是尊重別人的表現，也能贏得對方的尊重，要展示出最好的自己。

My advice: politeness opens people』s hearts, give them the best of yourself.

不任性

Lesson 5: She is not capricious

優雅的女士是成熟的淑女，而不是任性的小女孩。她不會表現得像是被寵壞的小孩子，而應該是是寵辱不驚，寬容待人。寬容是優雅淑女最重要的品質之一，所以在公眾場合她從不沮喪或生氣。即使為了某些特別重要的原因她不得不提出反對意見，也總是客氣而有禮貌的。

An elegant lady is first a lady, not a girl. She shall not behave like a spoiled child, but is able to accept irritations and annoyances with a smile. Being able to take upon oneself is a key element for an elegant lady. As a consequence, she should never look upset or angry in public, but always present an open face. Also, if she has to complain it is for serious reasons, she would then do it politely.

建議：微笑是一張很有用的通行證。

My advice: a smile is also a key which will open you many doors.

知道如何回應稱讚

Lesson 6: She knows how to receive compliments

受到稱讚時，最好的回應就是謙虛。但是如果對方稱讚的方式十分特別或不需要表現得過分謙虛，優雅的女士知道如何恰當的回應對方。

Of course, modesty is here the best reaction, but if somebody is complimenting you on some really impressive skills or actions there is no need to show an excessive modesty. An elegant lady knows her own quality and is thankful towards people recognizing it.

My advice: if you think you deserve a compliment, simply accept it with a genuine 「thank you, I appreciate your remark」 and that will be enough.

不自視清高

Lesson 7: She is not pretentious

優雅的女士都是博學多聞的，但是她們從不炫耀。優雅不是自視清高。

Elegant women are often knowledgeable, but they don』t take it as a reason to show-off their culture. Being elegant is not being pretentious or having a feeling of superiority.

My advice: even if you feel much smarter than people around you beware not to impress them too much with your culture or intelligence, they would feel uncomfortable.

合禮舉止

Lesson 8: She knows the proper manners

禮儀沒有好壞之分，只在不同環境中，有合禮不合禮之分。優雅的女士知道什麼情況下需要遵從高級禮儀規範（比如在高級餐廳中），也知道什麼時候可以放鬆自己。

There are no good or bad manners, only appropriate or inappropriate one, it all depends on the environment you are. The elegant lady knows how to adjust her behaviour, she knows when she has to follow an upstanding etiquette (at a gourmet restaurant for instance) and when to be slightly more casual.

My advice: etiquette is giving the best of yourself for the others, wherever you are you should try to find out how to behave in order to make people happy being with you.

希望這些建議對您有所幫助，歡迎留言告訴我們您想了解的話題。如果您有任何疑問，或者需要為您的公司定製禮儀課程，歡迎與我們聯繫！

I hope this advice have been useful. Please, tell us in the comments what you would like to know about the elegant lady』s behaviour. And if you have any other questions, or your want to organize etiquette classes for your company, you are more than welcome to write to us!

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