寒假去美國旅遊了一周，不明白為啥那多人想移民？

01-21

家裡不讓玩遊戲的孩子，羨慕別人家的遊戲機。家裡旱廁堵了，羨慕鄰居的抽水馬桶。你不玩遊戲機，也暫時不想上廁所，到人家客廳坐一會兒，看了看電視，發現和自己家沒啥區別。這能有啥區別啊。

在美國求學七年，還剩下兩年時間。

從高中到本科，從農村到城市，從兼職到全職，從超市到商場。從生活到享受。

我也不喜歡美國。冷冰冰的城市。

好想回家過年

有錢到哪裡都能過得好，沒錢到哪裡都是底層

因為你只呆了7天。

才七天就下結論？

這種問題，不同的人能給出差異很大的回答

就以我來說，因為生在上海長在上海，現在到美東一個大森林裡讀書自然感覺各種不方便，吃得不好以及娛樂設施缺乏。

美帝的大學教育的確不錯，讓我每天都覺得自己的知識與技能在不斷地增長。但與此同時，壓力也是自我讀書以來從未感受過的，哪怕和高三比。

在美帝如果能找到一份還不錯的工作的話（以入職7w刀稅後年薪為標準），日常生活負擔的確不重。但小富即安的我來說，留學前在上海的那份工作也夠我活得舒舒服服（一年除去自身的以及和女票各種吃喝玩樂出國旅遊的花費後還能剩稅後年薪+各類獎金的60%）。

我出國留學的動力主要是高考砸了+身邊好多高中同學出國（我高一高二班級75%左右的同學出國留學或有兩年以上留學經歷）+世界那麼大想出來見識見識。

你看，對我來說，移民只是一個對於未來的普通選項。美國有我覺得好的地方，但對我來說並沒有好到必留不可。

但對一些人來說，留下真的是更好美好的生活的開始。

所以在這點上不要以己度人。

美國又不是天堂，7天就能讓你決定移民的只有去旅遊也會給你72個那啥的那啥……你想一個美國人來中國7天就能決定移民中國嗎？7天都不夠他感受我大淘寶的威力啊！

等你在兩個國家都工作過了就可以回答這個問題了。

公司待遇和工作自由度是非常重要的決定因素。另一個因素是房車性價比問題，上海一百平米的房子在美國郊區能買兩套別墅，工科大學生畢業收入稅後有可能約等於一輛新的賓士suv的價格，同比國內大學畢業工資水平可能連一輛國產suv都買不起。等等。

移民美國基本上可以滿足在國內很多滿足不了或者很難滿足的需求

例如大的住房

便宜的物價

食品安全

清新的空氣

便宜的車價

名校

物以類聚，人以群分。古人誠不欺也。

短居可以，但是我是不支持移民的。

我曾經問一個跑遍世界的富翁，他覺得哪裡最適合養老，他想去生活。

他說南加州。

我和你的感受完全相反啊。

我就喜歡美國那種開車半個小時遇不上十輛車看不到行人，只有玉米地的大農村環境。

我不喜歡ktv，擼串等活動，不喜歡街道上刺耳的音樂和亮眼的廣告牌。（這些東西除紐約和中國城外，美國其他地方是很少見的。）

研究生階段獲得豐厚獎學金的幾率高於大多數國家。

對火鍋，老乾媽等不怎麼感冒，喜歡美國的快餐文化。（美國的食物過甜這點確實喜歡不起來）

買到假貨的幾率很小。

最重要的一點：美國對LGBTQI群體的包容，這是國內多少高樓大廈也換不來的。作為性少數群體的一員，在美國可以活得更加自由。

大部分人即使老師查的不嚴也不會想要作弊因為有違公平。

種族歧視的言論會被群起而攻之因為有違公平。

大家對服務人員都很禮貌很尊敬因為每個人都值得尊敬。

相信他人的行為只要不傷害到其他人，就不應該受到社會輿論或實質的懲罰。

對很多的特殊人群或敏感話題，國內還來不及有所討論，致使有些無辜的人受到傷害。

我的道德來源於，任何一件我做的事，把它當作全社會都在做，判定這是不是一個我想要的社會現狀，再決定這件事是對是錯。

而有些事，比如傷害無辜的人，即使只是用言論，侵犯人權，做不公平的行為等等，都是明確的錯的事情，與我是誰、受到不公平的對象是誰無關。

個人覺得，國內外最大的差別就在於，在國內很多人心裡沒有相對明確的對與錯的準則，或者說對於對錯的思考還沒有涉及到生活很多方面，即使有也常把權衡利與弊放在對與錯之前，所以基於你是什麼樣的思維方式，就會適應、喜歡什麼樣的社會。

10年+ 美帝居民的感受：比物質其實國內現在和美帝差距不大。主要差距都是在人和法制層面。美國是個真正意義上的法治國家，家暴啊體罰啊虐待兒童這種在國內司空見慣沒人管的」自家事」，在美國只要被警察知道了，絕對要走司法程序，施暴人輕則被勒令上課重則剝奪撫養權進監獄。雖然交的稅高點，但是警察是為我的安全服務的，樂意甘心。法律的威懾力導致每個人都知道尊重別人的人權的重要性。

我是十一去的美國，生活了八天，本來沒有這個念頭的，現在有了，這是咋回事

我之所以想回答問題，只是提醒題主，不該加問好

我水平低，小學文化，圖樣，也沒去過美國，但有話說

美國其實一直不是什麼一般人想像的天堂的那種環境，更不是讓所有人可以安逸的地方。

更何況第一批移民是從最發達的英國移民的，而且上岸就死了一半，可這樣還是擋不住大批大批的移民來到美國。

還是那句聽了無數遍的話：愛一個人，送他去美國，恨一個人，也送他去美國。在美國，有些人像活在天堂，有的人像活在地獄。

在我眼裡，美國的自由和繁榮是由所有普普通通的美國人所創造的，並不單是那些資本家。有些小人物在美國獲得了巨額財富，有些人變成了流浪漢，甚至有些人以奴隸的身份去的美國。不管怎麼樣，這些人最終在美國找到了自己的價值，這個我也不太清楚，不過我知道，blm比起黑奴要好多了。

說說治安問題，在我看過的書和任何資料中都沒看過美國治安好的說法。甚至以前看過一個故事，美國紐約的一個街區，四個警察天天無所事事，抽煙喝酒屁事不幹，原來是這個街區一天有1000多個犯罪案件，如果這幾個警察去管，那他們一天處理的案件比其他地區的警察一輩子處理的還多。不過一群壞人在一起也可能有好的方面，古巴曾經為了嘲笑美國的西式民主，把一批歹徒，妓女，癮君子送到美國，這些人聚集的地方就是現在的邁阿密。

對於那些在美國的同胞們，保護好自己啊，到好人多的地方去，千萬不要去上面我說的那種街區去。

我認為吸引人去美國的一個重要的東西是自由，無論你是多麼高尚的人，或者多麼扭曲變態的人都可以在美國找到自己的價值。在那包容性強啊。

我看過的一些美國校園電影中，總有那些有這缺陷那缺陷的人，有體重異於常人的，有口齒不清的，有得病如吃飯的，有放浪形骸的女生和男生。在這些電影中，就算有歧視他們的情況，但是最終他們都能找到自己的歸屬，有朋友，有理解自己的人，最終實現自己的價值。

反觀現在一些網民，說你這不好那不好是自己的問題，你被人噁心是因為你長得丑，你窮是自己不努力，更有甚者，我被富二代欺負是因為我不是富一代，這完全沒辦法啊，你好看我當然丑了，你富我當然窮了，哪天我遇到你打你一頓完全是因為你長的欠打。

對於被社會主流嘲諷的，被周圍所有人欺負的人，讓他們選擇，你覺得他們會不會去美國，參考鳳姐。至少鳳姐去了美國不會有這麼多人罵她丑，還有人覺得她的嘴唇很性感。

不管是早期的英國人，還是德國人，愛爾蘭人如果他們在自己的國家生活滿足，那他們還要冒著危險奔赴萬里去一個人生地不熟的地方白手起家？那時候美國可還是個窮國呢。先有移民，後有世界第一強國，而不是先有世界第一強國，後有的移民。

對於現在生活安逸的人，當然不想移民美國了，何必呢。活在北上廣深多舒坦，一個政治中心，一個世界窗口，一個經濟中心，一個創業中心，都是好地方啊，我能去打工賺點錢就謝天謝地了，不敢奢求定居。

只能看看美國，特朗普的移民行政命令引起幾百萬人的遊行抗議，不管特朗普是不是好心，普通的美國群眾可是反對限制移民的。在那些被歧視，壓迫，那些阿拉伯世界的同性戀，印度的賤民，印度那些悲慘的女性眼裡，美利堅是不是整個世界中希望的所在？

中國先把房價搞下平衡，在談其他吧，，，，，，

有很多人人是國內混不下去的才去的美國啊歐洲這些地方。比如說國內沒有人的家庭的孩子，這樣來說國外還是相對公平一丟丟

我表姐和表姐夫原來都是清華的老師，應該是為了生二胎去的，可惜了。

……以前有很多理由現在不好講，因為人民幣的魅力越來越大了

一句話總結美國的移民生活，好山好水好無聊。

因為他們想移民，你想不想得明白都沒有什麼關係

有些人傾傾其一生就是想去美國，等他們去了美國，要他們承認美國不那麼好，比殺了他們還難受，所以這個問題根本不可能有客觀的答案。

美國好不好，自己去住半年就知道，我個人感覺，你是資產階級，那就是天堂，你是勞工階級，那就是地獄。

講真，為了你的孩子，別把他帶去美國，不然當他寫下這種文章的時候，你還不知道他背後有多恨你

Hi everyone. I"m the author of the Wen Xue Cheng"s recent article telling Chinese parents they should understand the truth about how ABCs are treated in the USA before rushing to come to the USA in the name of "letting their kids pursue their dreams."
I have to acknowledge that while most parents on Wenxuecheng have spent several days and nights condemning me nonstop w/o really any arguments whatsoever rebutting my points, there have been some parents who have truly voiced their support for our experience. Those parents who are willing to take time to understand our situation have my greatest and deepest respect and are the ones we should engage with to improve the life of Chinese in America, China, or anywhere on the planet.
I"ve spent a lot of time studying Mandarin and catching up with Chinese culture, b/c while I had no choice to in coming to the US with my parents when I was 7, as I grew up, engaged with USA mainstream culture, examined the relative positions of the Chinese students" circle, the ABC circle, and the mainstream white American circles in school and in society, I wrote the article to hopefully tell Chinese parents (many of whom have kids growing up in the USA) about the truth that their kids face, often in adolescence and adulthood, that these parents don"t see, or may not hear from their kids b/c their of language barriers.
Wenxuecity is most a forum for lots of overseas ABC parents" to discuss all sorts of matters relating to life in the USA, how to raise a kid, etc....
After reading the barrage of insults on Wenxuecheng (http://bbs.wenxuecity.com/elementary-parents/) written by a small group of irate parents, I have come to be better understanding of what the real issue is and suggestions about how we can address the problem:
Honestly speaking, I think the real issue lies with Chinese parents. We shouldn"t blame them for bringing us to the USA at such an early age, b/c they did what they thought was best and no one can accurately foresee the future. However, my point in the articles, and my point now, is that once they arrive, Chinese parents purposely blind themselves to the reality of what Western world and white people think about Asians. They are so deluded by their old view that "America is the land of opportunity" that they are incapable of understanding or hearing any other possible views.
The worst part is that Chinese parents say in their own circles, speak Chinese, read Chinese, and don"t bother reading much English. They push their kids to experience the "real America", but when these kids come back and tell them it"s not as beautiful or as simple as they think, the parents push back and tell the kids that the parents are the ones who actually understand the country. This logic is as dumb as it gets.
I"ve argued extensively with parents on Wenxuecheng, but most seem to be laboring under a delusion that they can understand real America and the way white people create barriers to ABC"s success WITHOUT themselves ever having experienced it personally. The logic is just out of this world.
After these discussions, I』m actually not sure that MANY of these parents come to America really for their kids. That"s what they say. But from their tirade of personal attacks and insults against me, I feel that a large # of parents come to the USA b/c of their own selfish reasons, and just use "it"s good for the kids" as an excuse.
If parents really cared about their kids, wouldn"t they do a little more digging on what life is actually like for an ABC who doesn"t fit on either side? They don"t seem to care at all. Every time I point out that ABCs suffer a lot and parents can"t understand simply b/c they never had the experience of not fitting in anywhere. They can"t seem to comprehend it. A lot of them try to say in China, there is also geographical discrimination, etc.... but my point is that"s not like the ABC experience. Discrimination by where you come from isn"t as obvious, isn"t as blatant, isn"t as pervasive as shutting out a group of people from certain opportunities simply b/c you aren"t white. There is also geographic discrimination in the USA even b/w white people, but ABCs have to face TWO layers of discrimination - geography, and race. Chinese parents don"t get it, but more concerning, they don"t WANT to spend time understanding. They don』t WANT to acknowledge that reality in the West may be very different from that they are imagining.
That"s why I feel the real issue lies with the Chinese parents painting for their kids a rosy picture of America and using their deluded, fake sense of what the USA is like to force children to stop learning their language, their culture, and cut all ties to China. But when the kids grow up and enter the workforce, they realize the truth, but it"s too late. The parents don"t want to take responsibility (which they should, in this case), and blame the ABC children by saying their lack of ability to fit in with white circles is due to their lack of self-confidence. Which forces the ABC children to be even more confused, and have more trouble fitting in, a negative cycle. Meanwhile, the Chinese parents stay comfortably in their Chinese circles without having to really experience a drop of what it feels like to mingle with only white people (which they"ve required their children to do). I think it is the Chinese parents who have roots in China who have the best of both worlds - they can go back to China anytime and do whatever they want back there, or they can stay in the USA, enjoy the environment and air, and avoid discriminating by never stepping outside their Chinese circle.
I hate to say this, but some (again, not all) Chinese parents are some of the most selfish people I"ve ever seen.
The force their kids to do things that aren"t good for the kids, but make the parents look good.
The real reason parents on Wenxuecity condemn what I say is b/c deep down inside, it destroys their false sense of superiority. And they know it. Chinese parents with ABC kids love to brag, to other Chinese parents, about how ABC kids are "superior" to kids in China. They show off their kids like a pet owner shows off a dog. When a couple of parents thought that my English wasn"t good and I couldn"t be an ABC, one parent even said: "let me get my ABC kid who came when he was 8 years old to sniff the English of this ABC who says he came when he was 7 (referring to me)". Seriously - they treat their kids like airport police using a sniff dog to test for drugs. It"s truly, truly, sickening.
I used to think the ABC community needed to fight against white privilege, and that we should be focusing on fighting against whites.
But now, I think the real issue is that we can"t even get our parents to see our views. That"s a real problem. The problem with ABCs is that we don"t really have a strong network of our own. So we have to rely on the power and influence of China, that"s all we really have. But the very people who are willing to help us, to understand us, to perhaps help us better communicate with people in China, to better unite, to better understand what the real struggle is in America for a Chinese-American, are our parents - the same people who have only seen the bad elements of China but who have no idea about the darker side of America. They literally believe going to America is a panacea which cures all ills with no repercussions of its own.
Chinese parents seem to have a particular blind spot in their logic. They think somehow if you grow up as an ABC you still get the benefits of being Chinese but you get more - the benefits of being American. Reality doesn"t work that way. ABCs growing up in America actually FORFEIT the benefits of being Chinese. Most Chinese parents can』t see this.
Parents need to realize if kids grow up in the USA, they may get SOME elements of USA culture, but b/c they aren"t white, they can"t realize all the benefits. Chinese parents also don"t realize that for an ABC growing up in the USA basically FORFEITS his Chinese culture and will be no longer be accepted by Chinese people.
So the end result, is that we sacrificed what we had, to get something that we couldn』t get to being with.
No matter how many times you argue with them to see the truth, Chinese parents will mostly only think from their POV, which is, China is so crowded, the air is so bad, so my kid has to be an American. They confuse the need to 「avoid China」 with avoiding being China. You can emigrate from China, come to the west, but spent lots of time making sure your kids don』t forget the language and culture (many Korean-Americans do an excellent job at this). Chinese parents seem to conflate these very different things – they believe just b/c China society may be a little hectic at times, that their kids should stop being CHINESE. They are confusing the environment with the CORE identity. The environment can change. You can bring kids to other countries. But you should let them stop being Chinese. The core identity shouldn』t be thrown away so easily.
They don"t even know what being an American actually is. They think they made a lot of sacrifices (and some parents, I will admit, truly have, and those parents are worth respecting), but a lot of parents simply use their kids as an "excuse" to come to America to make their life better. They still have the China option. ABCs don"t. That"s a huge, damn difference that Chinese parents don"t seem brave enough to admit.
There is a huge difference between having an option and not taking it, and not having the option period.
It"s also the parent who is responsible for preserving the child"s options, because by the time the kids grow up, it"s too late. The period for natural language and cultural acquisition has passed. Many Chinese parents say they would rather be a 2nd class USA citizen below white people than to be a 1st class Chinese person. I do sympathize with the revolutions, poverties, etc... that they may have faced in China, but the real issue is once they come to the USA, it"s not really the parents who are condemned to be 2nd class at all, it"s actually their kids who suffer this result. The parents stay in their own circles, and many Chinese happy run businesses in America catering mostly to other Chinese in the USA. Chinese lawyers, Chinese doctors, Chinese dentists made great livings by catering to Chinese customers even in America. Parents don"t seem to realize that even in America, they still benefit from business opportunities and social networks BECAUSE of the very same Chinese circle that they"ve consciously forced their kids to discard. So often, the kids grow up and have LESS career opportunities than their parents, especially in today"s age where so many USA companies are hiring people who can speak Mandarin in addition to English. The international Chinese kids who come to the USA for university even have an advantage over ABCs. How does this reality comport with the "American dream" that the parents are still using to delude themselves? How is the ABC advantaged in any way?
The way I see it, we cannot fight against white America by trying to blend in with whites. Whites respect power, authority, money, and influence. They don"t respect suck-ups and imitators, especially if you have a foreign face. Whites in positions of power and business respect Chinese people more than they respect ABCs right now - that I can guarantee you. No-one respects ABCs if we just try to sheepishly blend in with whites. It"s not possible, b/c of the way we look (not just skin color, but also the differences in facial elements between Western and oriental people). We also cannot fight this battle independently. ABCs don"t have a core culture, we don"t have a core country, a set language, set culture - we lack all of these "cultural protective barriers" that mono-ethnic people take for granted.
I believe the smartest way to play the cards we"ve been dealt is still embrace our heritage, learn our language thoroughly and deeply, go to China to potentially work or experience the culture, and to make ourselves, overall, much much more Chinese so that we can leverage the power of the Chinese economy to help influence and improve the status of the Chinese people globally. Given now that so many Chinese companies are buying American companies left and right, we should find ways to reach out to Chinese entrepreneurs like Jack Ma or Wang Jianling and have them on our side. For example, why doesn"t China start requiring all Hollywood films that want to make money in China"s box office have at least one male Asian actor protrayed in a very positive light? This would be a sure way to start reversing Hollywood"s vile campaign to dehumanize the ABC male?
There are people in China who can help, we need to learn and improve our Chinese to better communicate with them. But a huge IRONY is that when you use Chinese to post in forums like WenxueCity for Chinese parents, they say, b/c you know Chinese, you are an imposter and cannot be a "true ABC". They asked me to write English! But when I actually did, no one bothers to read it. That』s the paradox of communicating with these Chinese parents who can only see things from their POV.
They don"t even know what a damn true ABC is. Why is an ABC who doesn"t know Chinese a good thing in today"s increasingly globalized society at all? These Chinese parents seriously have no fucken logic at all - it"s all about their saving face.
The real chain of logic in Chinese parents" minds is: My kid tells me they are facing discrimination =&> that means coming to America was wrong? =&> even it it is wrong, I can"t admit it =&> when I go back to China or hang out with other Chinese people I will lose face! =&> I cannot lose face!, even if child suffers. From the reactions of many Chinese parents on Wenxue who attack me personally, I am afraid many parents are indeed watching out for their own interests more than the child"s.
I asked the parents, if they feel it"s so easy and comfortable to be with people who are not like you all the time, why don"t you parents demonstrate by taking 6 months, not hanging with any Chinese people, and only mingling with whites? I asked them to walk the walk, not just talk cheap crap about "just be confident", etc... all that crap they spew about "identity" not being important. Not surprisingly, no parent actually can walk the walk. They talk about how a person"s identity and sense of belonging is not so important, ironically, only when they are fully comfortable in an all-Chinese circle where they never have to worry about identity. No parent wants to step out of their own comfort zone to experience the true, and too often unjust America that their ABC children are forced to deal with on a day-to-day basis. It"s truly ironic, and I believe incredibly short-sighted from the parents" perspective.
While we should never blame our parents for many of our problems (we should face them ourselves), but for this particular problem concerning ABCs" "identity issues" that affect them in all aspects of life, I think the Chinese parents have MAJOR responsibility for putting their children in this circumstances.
China may have its own struggles, and a Chinese young person with an average family background surely has to struggle immensely, whether it be competitive exams, studying, the pollution, etc.... But to be honest, every time I back to China, I don"t get the sense that young people (below 30) of our generation in general are "suffering". They may be busy with a lot of things and have hard exams and maybe bad weather, but they are extremely happy with diverse social circles, friends for gatherings, young people working their butts off to start internet companies, etc.... China today is not the same China 30 years ago. It』s a vibrant, fast-changing, dynamic place especially suited for hungry, ambitious young people. That』s the truth. China may not be perfect, but Chinese parents who come to the USA seriously do not appreciate what they already have - the powerful, dynamic market and country that is China. I don"t think it"s worth it for parents to throw this away for their kids just so kids can breathe some fresh air and buy organic food from Wholefoods (by the way, in China, organic food can be bought even more conveniently online!). They might not know it, but they are asking their children to throw away potentially very meaningful adult social and professional lives just to become this "ABC -label" whose meaning that the parents don"t even really understand at all. It"s a lot of irresponsibility from the parent"s side, IMO. I would rather struggle and enjoy the pains and victories with my generation of Chinese, grow up with my own people, because a lot of opportunities in life come not from your grades or what school you went to, but from how many people you can establish a connection with. What Chinese parents don"t understand is that absent the ability to make these meaningful connections with groups of people (who could be your later friends, partners, customers, co-workers, etc...), good grades and Ivy League degrees mean very little.
I believe fighting against white supremacy is useless and will never yield the results we want. B/c most white people will never view us as one of their own, and this will only get worse as China becomes more and more a competitor to the USA. Trump"s election is a testament that white people want to keep USA white - racial diversity be damned.
I don"t think ABCs need to be told that "if only you work on your social skills more" you can integrate with whites. ABCs have great social skills. The issue is not a lack of social skills. It"s a lack of an environment that respects and treats ABCs with dignity. I see plenty of meek, introverted white guys who still have plenty of friends and dates. It"s not social skills. It"s racial discrimination. Call it out for what it is.
As ABCs, we have a very powerful weapon at our disposal, the strength and influence of China. That"s something African Americans or Hispanics don"t have. We should find ways to better communicate with people in China, our generation in China, to work together to improve the image of Chinese people across the globe.
Whether you admit it or not, China is the society we were meant to live in. I rather go through all the struggles and victories that together define the identities of millions of Chinese, rather than being an ABC with a false sense of superiority but in reality having nowhere to belong and nowhere to call a true home. Chinese parents don』t understand that if you can』t have the good stuff w/o going thru the bad stuff. I would much rather have spent more of my childhood in China, struggling with everyone else, tasting the pains and victories of every step of being Chinese =&> because that』s important. Common struggle is what gives people identity and bonding. USA football teams, USA sports teams, military, etc… use the same playbook. Sometimes, in life, it』s not about how superior you are to someone else, it』s about whether you can identify with a lot of people or not.
Chinese parents who don』t understand this, believe that by raising kids in America literally in a cultural vacuum, that these kids can just have great test scores and rise to the top. That』s completely wrong. These ABC kids are in fact sacrificing the very COMMON struggles and victories that will become a pivotal part of who they are in their adult lives. These same struggles are the elements that help them connect with other people like themselves. There are no shortcuts in life. ABC parents are essentially trying to give their children a 「shortcut」 but there is no free lunch in this world. What looks like a short-cut while their kids are small actually comes with a HUGE cultural sacrifice that follow these kids for the rest of their lives.
It is not surprising that the most confident Chinese I know, even in America, seem to be ones who at least spent middle school or high school in China and have their firm Chinese roots, but come to America to learn the best of Western thought, but will go back later to apply it in their home country - China. Chinese people in America are far more confident than ABCs, who are some of the least confident people I know of, but who can blame them? They are truly lost, at no fault of their own. Anybody in an ABC"s shoes would think similarly.
If you are poor, you can struggle and one day you may be rich.
But if you forget your roots, you can never be rich. Even your own people won"t give a damn about you.
Chinese parents need to realize, hopefully sooner than later, that in America you can learn about the most advanced technology and thoughts, but you have to go back to China to be able to put those things in full use. Being an ABC is just an empty shell. Parents get bragging rights. ABCs get fresh air, little less work in grade school, but not much else.
All views, counterpoints, debates, insults, etc... more than welcome