在國外如何禮貌地拒絕外國人的搭訕（約X）？

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大家不要糾結於禮貌和外國人的問題啦，這不是問題的重點啊，抱歉是我表述的太不清楚了。我的困惑更多的是在一個人跟你聊天氣聊文化之類雲淡風輕的情況下如何判斷他是不是約炮的，因為外國人愛跟陌生人聊天的實在太多了，在國內很少這樣。單純的聊天和想約你的情況都碰到，開頭都是跟你聊天氣balabala。我覺得在國外生活過很多年的人可能更了解他們的習慣，可以教導一下我這種弱智=_=
ps.我只喜歡中國男生所以並不是有些人想像中的對外國人很崇拜對自己人很傲慢，根本沒有的事，所以不要誤會啦。(′?_?`)

分割線———————原問題廢話太多可以忽略

剛來自悉尼半年，碰到過好多次搭訕，澳洲人的確比較友好，一開始還以為他們是真心想和你做朋友或者只是友好的跟你聊聊天什麼的。但有些一看就是想約*的，比如有家庭的年紀不小了的男人，時不時的還會輕微的碰你一下什麼的。
聽前輩說很多外國人覺得中國女生很cheap，所以後來被搭訕其實心裡很不舒服。最煩人的一次是非要開車送我回家，我拒絕後竟然一路陪我走了回去，幸虧是白天不然我都想報警了。他們一般也不會明確的說出dating，只是要你喝個咖啡下次見個面啥的，我就很委婉的說我有bf了（其實並沒有-_-#），結果有一次有個男的說我並沒有要當你bf……然後繼續要見面……還有的人非要加你社交軟體然後一直跟你聊天約見面。（後來我都刪了）
在國外亞洲女生很容易被人搭訕，但他們是真的出於喜歡還是覺得很easy girl就很難說了。自己一面不想理他們一面又不想讓他們覺得中國人很不友好沒禮貌，這個度很難把握啊，真心希望有經驗的人回答。
———————補充一點自己的疑惑
自己剛來這半年不可能完全了解他們的文化和習慣，所以也就不好判斷他們到底是單純的聊天還是要跟你怎樣怎樣。我也遇到很多次真的只是跟你簡單的問好聊天而已，所以不可能每次別人一跟你說話你就罵回去或者白眼。所以是不是他想跟你見面就基本99%是約X的了，然後就可以fu*k off了^_?（還有啊我並不是覺得對外國人搭訕就得有禮貌對自己人就可以沒禮貌，在哪都得講禮貌哇。我是覺得在無法判斷對方意圖的情況下禮貌總是沒錯的）

為什麼不用合法渠道來保護自己呢？
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國人一般都習慣了熟人社會，會特別在意言語之外對形象帶來的不利影響，這點東瀛更甚。這並不奇怪，而只是屬於文化差異的問題。不過既然來了澳洲，就還是儘可能的像小庄那樣適應調整下自己的思維方式吧。澳洲人是出了名的直爽，說極端點就是有點粗魯。不信，可以找海對面的紐西蘭人（kiwi）們去問問。而且是越郊區rural越明顯，譬如昆州人（queenslander）就是非常典型的例子。大悉村算是非常國際化，相對會尊重各國風俗習慣了。但推薦小留們說話儘可能的不要太溫吞了。直接上來F word當然是不可取的方式，除非要應對某些素質不佳的底層人士（bogan）。但是意思不表明清楚的話，本地人（local）和你交流同樣也會很苦惱的。畢竟，人際交流是雙向的，這裡也不是大腐國。也默默的黑了下

PS：順便盡自己可能的說句：華人/留學生們還是儘可能別用「鬼佬」這個具有侮辱性的辭彙了，雖然你也許是無意，但畢竟這個辭彙的含義略懂中文的都能聽出來不友好。友善從個人做起吧！
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頭次實名反對@小庄PetitFancy 的說法。土澳法制健全，規則清晰，留學生們為什麼不用呢？覺得自己被騷擾了就應該大膽的使用正規法律渠道來解決問題。
沉默或者不明確的言語反對反而是默認甚至縱容對方不當行為的不正確回應方式。
在悉尼，可以聯繫新南威爾士州（NSW）的法律援助（lawstuff），以及學校或者其他機構的法律援助渠道
Lawstuff Australia

What can I do if I have been sexually harassed?
You have lots of options. You can do the following:
1. Tell them to stop: if it is possible, tell the offender verbally or in writing that their behaviour is offensive and unacceptable and that you want it to stop immediately. If this isn』t possible, you should discuss it with a person who is in charge, such as your work supervisor or teacher.
2. Keep a written record: you should keep a written record of everything that has happened, when it happened and the names of any people who saw what happened. You can keep notes in your phone if you want.

3. Get some support: if someone has sexually or indecently assaulted you, you can call 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732）to talk about your situation. They can help you with things like reporting to the police. You can also call your local police station to report what happened. For more information on sexual assault and who you can talk to, please visit our Lawstuff page on Sexual Assault.
4. Make a complaint to your employer or school: depending on where the harassment occurs there may be guidelines or a policy which you need to follow to report what has happened and make a complaint. For example:

Workplace - most workplaces will have a sexual harassment policy which will explains how to make a complaint.

School – the NSW Department of Education has a policy for sexual harassment which applies to all public schools. Private schools may also have their own policy or complaints procedures for sexual harassment which can be accessed by students.

5. Make a complaint to the Government: If you can』t resolve the issue with your employer or school, or it didn』t happen there, you can make a complaint to the Australian Human Rights Commission (AHRC) (run by the Federal Government) or to the NSW Anti-Discrimination Board which is run by the state government.
You should get legal advice about which organisation to make your complaint to, because the federal law is slightly different to the state law. It is free to make a complaint at both places. You generally must make the complaint no more than 12 months after the harassment happened.

You can find out more about this by contacting the Commissions using the contact details listed below. You can also contact LawAccess NSW on 1300 888 529
If you complain to the NSW Anti-Discrimination Board or the Australian Human Rights Commission and it does not resolve the complaint, you may have the option to go to a formal court or tribunal hearing.
You may feel scared about making a complaint, but it is important to know that it is against the law for someone to treat you unfairly or harm you because you made a complaint against them. If that happens, they can be fined or imprisoned.
6. Tell someone
Sexual harassment is unacceptable and you should speak to your parents or another adult that you trust. If you do not speak to someone, or report what happened, then no one will know what is going on and they can』t help you. We have provided you with a list of important contacts to call at the end of this fact sheet if you would like to talk to someone confidentially.

@Jormundandr 昆士蘭州QLD的：
Lawstuff Australia

What do I do if I am sexually harassed?
You have lots of options. You can do the following:
1. Tell them to stop: if it is possible, tell the offender verbally or in writing that their behaviour is offensive and unacceptable and that you want it to stop immediately. If this isn』t possible, you should discuss it with a person who is in charge, such as your work supervisor or teacher.
2. Keep a written record: you should keep a written record of everything that has happened, when it happened and the names of any people who saw what happened. You can keep notes in your phone if you want.
3. Get some support: if someone has sexually harassed you or sexually or indecently assaulted you, you can call 1800 RESPECT to talk about your situation.
If the behavior involves touching you in a sexual or indecent way, it』s a crime. You can also call your local police station to report what happened. For more information on sexual assault and who you can talk to, please visit our Lawstuff page on Sexual Assault.

4. Make a complaint to your employer or school: depending on where the harassment occurs there may be guidelines or a policy which you need to follow to report what has happened and make a complaint. For example:
a. Workplace - most workplaces will have a sexual harassment policy which will outline the complaint procedure.
b. School – the Qld Department of Education Training and Employment has a policy for sexual harassment which applies to all state schools. Schools may also have their own policy on complaints procedures for sexual harassment which can be accessed by students.
5. Make a complaint to the Government: If the issue is still not resolved or didn』t occur at school or work, you have the right to make a complaint to the Australian Human Rights Commission which is run by the Commonwealth government or to the QLD Anti-Discrimination Commission which is run by the state government.

You should get legal advice about which organisation to make your complaint to, because the federal law is slightly different to the state law. It is free to make a complaint. You generally must make the complaint no more than 12 months after the harassment happened.
If you complain and the matter is not resolved, you may have the option to go to a tribunal or court hearing.
You can find out more about this by contacting the Commissions using the contact details listed below.
You may feel scared about making a complaint, but it is important to know that it is against the law for someone to treat you unfairly or harm you because you made a complaint against them. If that happens, they can be fined or imprisoned.

或者直接找聯邦層級的人權部門:
Sexual harassment
Making a complaint

If you feel you have been sexually harassed, you can make a complaint to the Australian Human Rights Commission. Complaints must be made in writing or by email. This can be done by downloading a complaints form or completing the online complaint form.
There is no cost involved in making a complaint. Complaints can be made in any language, in Braille, or verbally on a video or audio tape. The Commission can also help you write out your complaint if you require assistance.
The Complaints section of the Commission』s website has more information about the complaints process. Alternatively, for further information, or to discuss a complaint with a Complaints Information Officer, call 1300 656 419 or emailcomplaintsinfo@humanrights.gov.au.

留學生出門在外，要知道保護自己，不應該當隱身人

簡單來說就是：
一句話都不說

你確定他是想來一發，而你又沒有好感的話。
只要他提到比較過分的事情，不要做出任何反應。
因為不管你做什麼，他們都會很興奮。。。。

對他們來說，這就是個challenge

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至於easy girl，cheap，這個不至於
（可能中國女孩沒有身經百戰，所以對他們還有點好奇，唉，天真啊）

因為這種人在歐美很多，很多男生隨機搭訕，只要成功一次，今天的樂子就有了。
我表妹在倫敦，被搭訕後，那男生居然跟著走了五個街道。（我真沒有黑英國）

It"s not funny
這句話看似輕，實則重。連我家娃聽到，也會瞬間乖很多

同在澳洲，剛來的時候被各種搭訕啊，但是沒有一個成功過，而且都不敢糾纏。因為…我外表看上去是個軟妹子但身高好歹170啊，基本那種猥瑣老外是不敢拿我怎麼地的，走路起來目不斜視，腳下生風，如果還敢搭訕的，用眼神瞪他！沒錯，不要笑，下巴抬起來，走路不要停，瞪他的時候不要轉頭，用眼角餘光！不要說任何話！至今沒遇見過再敢造次的。
話說，姑娘們出門在外的，一定要注意自己的人生安全，出門一定要帶人，有男友帶男友，沒男友的帶姐們，都不方便的帶好自己強大的內心…
準備申請狩獵課程，弄把槍回來放家裡，鎮宅。

瀉藥
如果是在喝酒或者幹嘛的，你又是被強行打擾，很簡單，直接表明態度就可以了。
女孩子的話，建議說你在等人或者是已經有男朋友了，只要對方不是太討厭可以禮貌性頷首微笑一下，用高冷氣場讓對方自討沒趣（什麼鬼）一般來說大家搭訕都不會挑硬骨頭下手。還有就是，千萬不要一個人在外面喝大。然後如果像題主這種情況，你要是對對方沒啥意思，又不確定對方的意思，就禮貌性疏遠吧，不要因為對方是老外就拿旁聽的觀念來影響自己判斷，因為萬一對方也是被這種觀念洗腦的，你不就正中居心不良的人的下懷嘛！用腦子自己判斷判斷。
男孩子的話，同樣的，對方沒有太冒犯，你就笑笑過去或者告訴對方自己有對象了就好了。
國內國外都一樣，總之一句話，大家隨機應變，這種時候就優雅而不留痕迹就好了( ′???` )

你跟他談isis有多好，罵美國政府是恐怖主義，高舉伊斯蘭共和國大一統旗幟，強調信教的好處…自然而然該跑的跑該舉報的舉報…

開始摳鼻孔........

假裝不會英文。
I don"t know what 7 you say.╮(╯_╰)╭

人在布里斯班，和題主一樣煩惱

是的，剛開始過來被各種各樣的男生搭訕感覺受寵若驚，（因為我在國內這麼多年也沒有男生這樣過）一開始也是禮貌的回應和拒絕，可是，圖樣圖森破！正如樓上所說，他們不會覺得這是拒絕，他們覺得這是機會！(?Д?)?（機會你妹啊！！！）所以導致了我在一段時間內非常困惑，惱怒，不知道如何處理這一堆男人（嫌棄臉）

所以題主，不要理他們，告訴他們你有男朋友了！越理越煩我給你講，真的慘痛的回憶啊……π_π

其實，沒什麼太難理解的文化和習慣，就是大膽、直接且堅持。

只是這種堅持不要臉的事情，對於國內多數男生（甚至多數亞洲男生）來說，並不主流和成熟。

有法國老師對來交換的外國學生強調：

「一定會有人在街上或什麼地方和你搭訕。你不用看他們直接走開，什麼都不要說。對，就連"不"/"讓開"都別說。你開口了，他們會以為自己有戲會繼續追著你。」

所以就閉緊你的嘴趕緊走人。

說自己喜歡女人自己是同性戀親測有效噢

一邊要曖昧，一邊拒絕不徹底，要換我也繼續糾纏你

你聽說過安利嗎？

Thanks, no Thanks. Now, fuck off.

在法國這麼多年拒絕搭訕婉拒追求者都是告訴對方自己是les並且有女票（其實並沒有再難纏一點的祭出某小清新網紅的隨便一張自拍就基本解決了

反正我真的是les

聊天到最後要聯繫方式的時候你可以教他一句中文：有緣再見
然後給他解釋一下這是我們中國人的處世哲學：）既不留電話也不掉逼格多好

可以和他說：我是一個種族主義者，我只上同種族的帥哥？紅脖子 /尼格快滾開！

如果你碰到這種情況的是一個中國男人，你會怎麼說？翻譯成別的語言直接遞過去。不要把國外男人看成比中國男人高等級的物種。尊重自己，注意安全。

答個題外話
坐標北京我見過一個瑞士的老男人冒充北大教授加微信的
每次都說warm kiss and hug
我說我有bf了他就發個生氣的表情
然後tell me when you wanna meet up
就刪掉了
要早點斷啊！別不好意思