去過《非誠勿擾》的嘉賓，有什麼感想？好玩嗎？

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這樣才有助於讓大夥們更加理解題目的所指~
幫你們改好了題目，不謝

我去過兩次，第一次是2010年五月：

我周五晚上到。去了江蘇衛視安排好的旅館，發現都是男的，後來得知江蘇衛視特別重視男女嘉賓錄製之前不能見面，仔細把大家分到不同的旅店。

第二天下午一點開始錄製，但早上10點就要到電台。提前三個小時幹嘛？用來「準備」大家。導演怕我們太無聊，先過一下資料，幫每個人想想亮點，出場說什麼，最後問心動女生什麼。

導演問我準備向心動女生提什麼問題。我說我想知道每個女孩子的夢想是什麼。導演說，這個不夠好玩，你應該問那種」假如男朋友和媽媽都掉進水裡你救誰？」的問題。我心裡想「原來這些導演這麼俗」，就提前離開，不跟他們準備了。

到台後轉轉，發現場地特別小，比電視上看到至少小一倍。 Camera Magic。

碰到樂嘉和另外一個工作人員，跟他們聊了聊。他們問我選誰，我說「X」，他們說「今天沒來」，我說：「Y"，他們說：上期領走了，我說：」閆鳳嬌「，他們說：」這個不能選，假如你想在電視上看到自己「，當時不知道，但那天閆姐姐出了裸照。。。假如選了就被刪了。很感謝那個工作人員，救了我一命。

我是5號，最後一個出場。我和其他男嘉賓一起在台後等待命運。大家都挺緊張的，互相鼓勵。當時我們的情景有點像一幫等著被槍斃的犯人。

台後雖然緊張，但下了電梯就好了，站在台上還挺自在的。可惜的是，選心動女生時完全看不清楚24位女孩子的臉，根本不知道誰長得好賴。（我唯一能看清楚的就是一個叫「張奀寧」的女孩子，因為她的五官都特別大。她被選過無數次心動女生。也許只是因為她很漂亮，但我覺其實是因為她是唯一一個可以被看清楚臉的。。。）

選女孩子的那個遙控器是觸摸屏，而且是好貨。手感比iphone4 還靈敏。

上台過程記不太清楚。在台上站了至少有30-40分鐘，錄製過程中間出了很多錯誤。一開始燈壞了，然後攝像機也壞了。後來更荒唐，有個女嘉賓當場昏過去了。背景故事：導演說她胖，上鏡不好看。她為了減肥每天只吃一個蘋果。後來抬她出去的哥們兒跟我說：「哎，是該減肥，剛才抬她出去比抬個男的還累。。。」

錄製完畢後，很多男女嘉賓一起出去party。地點：南京的1912，潮人。聽說當天晚上有很多hook up。但我不知道，因為當時還跟美國一個團隊合作創業，自己一個人2am跑回酒店寫code。還算靠譜吧，呵呵

這個必須匿。
上過幾個，假高潮，不比女朋友好，失望。

好友的朋友去過，回來講了些花絮，分享一下。是個財貌俱佳的男孩，特自信。其實有女朋友，去參加節目是為了證明自己。

結果去了以後全滅燈，震驚了，人生觀崩塌，無比沮喪著回來，一開郵箱全是求愛信......後來說很多都是現場不搭理後台互留聯繫方式。

曾經的我，在爸媽的觀看帶領下，追著收看《非誠勿擾》（是的，你沒有看錯，我爸媽屬於每期必看，每期必等的鐵杆老粉）。之前一直聽說這個節目是編排好的，我卻始終不相信，可是看了2015年12月份我很喜歡的兩位女嘉賓同一期被牽走後（XJ和HYY）,本人是微博刷粉，刷微博才發現原來我真是圖樣圖森破。

我找的截圖來了@@@@

一、
那一期XJ前面和秦皇島大哥牽手成功，後來第二天錄製時她的大學同學專門為她而來，發生了驚天大逆轉。XJ說她和秦皇島大哥牽手後，那位劉某就說有事情先回秦皇島了，然後節目組打電話給他說他說自己在南京博物館參觀，隨後就又來到了非誠勿擾錄製現場。這位大哥兩邊回答不一，明顯就是為了出場秀臉去的，查看他的微博還是所謂什麼小牌化妝品CEO.估計參加節目後微博漲粉不少。

一、 HYY也被一個自稱從事餐飲行業的創業帥青年牽走。我很喜歡HYY的性格。結果我在微博看到了這個

說好的到處漂泊的餐飲創業人士呢，結果原來是混跡娛樂圈的模特，看微博都是參加節目，準備走紅的。囧。

我喜歡的HYY也發了這條微博

三．知性美女LH 牽走後，微博寫的一篇至真至誠的文章，裡面截取一段

總結。最後一個截圖

哎，啥都不說了。我只是想把看到的截圖發給大家，就醬，以後再也不看了。

一哥們兒去過，我是親友團也去了現場，後來和當場至少五個女嘉賓發展成了不同時期的炮友。。。

我在 Quora 寫了一個很長的帖子。What Is It Like to Be on the Chinese Gameshow Fei Cheng Wu Rao (If You Are the One)?
我複製了我寫了什麼。實在抱歉很長和是英文。再想說，我知道這是我在知乎上第一個帖子，所以有可能大家有可能覺得，這個 ABC 太TMD 想出名。其實不是 - 我之所以來到zhihu，想多交幾個朋友，多了解中國人想法因為我7月分會開始在國內上班。

我的是6月18日2011年。 #138。第三男嘉賓 - 這樣子，可以直接在優酷找。
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So I guess I can recount my entire experience. This will be a long post. It was a wonderful experience for me and I had so much fun doing it. I just wish a few things could"ve done a few things differently.

So I remember the first time I saw the show was back in March. I was hanging out with my friend at her place and she said, hey, do you know this show, it"s called "Fei Cheng Wu Rao." And so I asked her questions about how the show works and she basically told me the process. I said, that sounds awesome. I"ve always wanted to be a mini celebrity. She looked at me and said, you should go apply! I"ll be one of the friends that talks about you. I looked at her and said ok.

I sort of forgot about the conversation and then there was this other Chinese American guy that got all sort of hype named "An Tian", a Harvard guy that had the choice of choosing the two girls, asked them if you had 10 mil what would you do, and both of them gave answers that weren"t great. The guy then walked away.

I thought it was honorable to push philanthropy so openly, but not as humble or Chinese as I thought. So that pretty much made me apply.

So I want onto the Jiangsu TV"s website and applied. I wrote in broken in Chinese something to the effect that I"m an "ABC" (American Born Chinese ), would like to meet a nice Chinese girl as I"ve dated Chinese women before and have had varying experiences.

A week later, I received a call from one of the show"s producer"s inviting me down to interview. I was living in Beijing at the time and the interview location was down the street from where I lived. When I got there, I was stunned. Probably at least 100 people with some parents and friends all going there. They gave us forms to fill out. I tried to fill out the forms, but my writing in Chinese isn"t great. I can type or read ok, but couldn"t remember how to write a ton of words. Instead of going on pleco and figuring out every word, I just asked for help. A lot of the girls there were very friendly and more than willing to help a lao wai out in filling out the form. So I filled out the form and then I struck a cord with one of the employees. He also used Jiepang, the location based service that I was working at and we talked about his thoughts about the app. He then told me, hey, I suggest you position yourself this way and so he suggested I say that I look like a guy named "xue chun" during the interview.

So during the interview, there were 3 people. I came in and I thought I was dressed pretty well. Cream colored sport coat with a pink shirt. I thought to myself "peacocking" was the way to go. I probably looked like a tool to a lot of people, but it was my best try. The producer people asked me about my life and I told them about how I moved around 12 times and came to China to work. I have a deep love for the culture and country and hopefully one day can settle down with a nice Chinese girl that"s international, hopefully that has studied / worked abroad in the states or Europe. I told them that all my life I was a "banana" and that I"m hoping my kids can be "mangos." They said, great, you"re in, but don"t tell anyone that we"ve already selected you as a finalist. Afterwards, I did my video for Baihe, which is like the Match.com of China, which has a partnership with the TV show. After that I was finished.

A week later, I got a call to do the VCR, or the video about me. So I called up a few friends of mine to say good things about me and had them ready. The VCR took about 2 hours. I first bought the film crew lunch and then headed to my house. Before coming, they asked me to purchase a world map and a China map, so I did. Then they said, in your first video, just talk about who you are. What you like to do. I talked to them about my life of moving around my life, living in different places such as Indiana, Nor Cal, So Cal, New York and Asia. So they came up with a story of having me move my plane around. While they were filming me, I kept on slipping up on saying "Northern California" (北加洲) and 南加洲 and for the life of me couldn"t stop saying it. Probably did 10 takes on that portion because they kept telling me Chinese people have no idea what Northern and Southern California is, rather just say LA and SF. I also realized that from conversations with previous girlfriends, I had picked up some bad Chinese habits, which made my speech very verbose. I kept on saying "我之所以" (the reason I did this is because), and he said, just try to be more concise. My Chinese vernacular I found was filled with "filler words" like "那個「，」就是「，"這個「，」之所以「 etc. It was a tough habit to kick in the two hours.

After filming my VCR, my friends came. One of my buddies dad"s was in the film industry as well so he did his talk about me in one take. The crew looked at me and said, wow, that guy is "牛逼" (fuc*ing awesome).

About 10 days later, I got a call from the director to buy a TRAIN TICKET to Nanjing and he said that they"d reimburse the amount. I said ok. I bought the train ticket and went to Nanjing. My train took off at night in Beijing and got to Nanjing in the morning at 6:00 am. They gave me a room at the Hanting Inn and I had to share a room with another contestant. The other contestant was cool and was an English teacher. So in general they filmed 4 shows during a week. 2 on Saturday, 2 on Sunday and they fly the girls out every other weekend to film the shows.

I hang out in Nanjing during the day and saw the Nanjing Massacre museum as I was always very interested in the book "the rape of nanking" by Iris Chang. I documented all of this on my Jiepang.

At night, was when my adventure of FCWR took an unfortunate twist. The night before the show, I received a call from someone from the show asking me to pick number 8. I protested and I said, can I not as I really didn"t want to pick her. 8 was notorious for being bitc*y and tough as well as she ain"t all that pretty. The guy pretty much in a nice way said I should. I was sort of depressed and thought that it sucked, but whatever. The director then sent me a text message to memorize the song that I noted in my interview. I"m probably one of the worse singers I know and can only pretend to rap some Eminem songs and maybe some N"sync songs when I"ve got some liquid courage, so it made me doubly nervous. At night, my roommate and I researched the female contestants. We talked about the girls we liked and the ones we didn"t like. We agreed on a few of them and didn"t agree on a few of them. I still remember telling him I liked 3, 12, 17 and 23. He told me he was into 9. We both agreed that 8 was really bitc*y.

I tried sleeping and remember having a dream of getting boo"ed off. I had a bad night sleep also because my roommate was a snorer.

The next day, I cabbed to the studio with a few different shirts so that they could fit me. I was still a little worried and I waited in the lobby. I waited in the lobby practicing the song and checked in with Jiepang.

In the lobby, I met a few other contestants. One of them, I thought looked like the guy from Infernal Affairs 2, Shawn Yue and just a very good looking and extremely nice guy as well. He would be the contestant after me.

So we get to meeting room where we are asked to sign NDA"s with regards to the show or at least I think that"s what it was. The documents were really long and in Chinese and I pretty much asked the other male contestants what the documents said. They explained some of the various clauses. I then apologized for being such a banana. The FCWR employees then asked us to prepare a final question in case we have female contestants that leave their lights on for us. I initially wanted to ask, would you be willing to go to the US for a guy and then I was rejected by the staff. They noted that the question was too loaded politically and said it sort of encouraged brain drain. I told them that that wasn"t my intention, and that I don"t think the US is better than China, rather it"s different and has different offerings. They looked at me and said they were very happy that I was so passionate about China, but still better to have another question. I relented and came up with the question, what"s your favorite part of China. The staff at the time agreed on that question.

They took us down to the venue and walked us through what the process was. The elevator, the stage and how to select our "心動女生「 on the little device. Didn"t seem that tough.

At the time, we couldn"t put on social media any videos or pictures of the venue, but after the show aired they said we could. I remember taking a picture of the elevator of doom and writing about it on Weibo.

After the tour was when they took us to make up where they took pictures of us. During the make up time, they suggested I change my hair. I actually like my hairstyle and I felt (and still do) that it goes with the shape of my face - a diamond shaped face. They neglected my suggestion and insisted of giving me a little bit of a makeover and give me a mohawk. Sure.

Following make up, they took us back stage and told us our order. I was told I was gonna be 3rd. At this time, they wanted to confirm with me that I was gonna play ball and pick #8. I sighed and said, "do I have to (我必須要嗎？) - they said it"s better that I do. （最好是）.

I remember seeing the first guy go up. He was this really nice guy that was just funny. When I think of him, I thought of a Chinese version of Chandler from friends. He didn"t succeed and I thought, jeez, that sucks. What if the girls all turn off my light. I worried about being embarrassed.

Onto the second male contestant. I don"t remember seeing what ended up happening to the second male contestant because about 5 minutes before they were done, they told me to go onto the elevator. I was still so nervous. I thought that my Mandarin would fail me and I was worried I would forget the song.

Finally, in the background, I heard Meng Fei say, "下一位，男家賓". And then the song "Can you feel it comes on" - right when that happens. The elevator starts flashing and it"s a bumpy ride down. My heart is pumping really hard and I"m like here we go. I get up on stage and I"m like, Hi Everyone, my name is 郭子威, i"m 27, happy to be here and bowed. I don"t know why, but it was almost instinctual to bow. I kept on bowing and I have no idea why! So Meng Fei said I looked like Nemo"s dad and then made a few jokes about that. I remember being up there, but the experience being surreal. He then asked me to pick my 心動女生, so I did. My hand was shaking, which was why they didn"t show the selection at the end. I obediently picked #8. All of the girls kept their lights on for me, which I thought was a miracle. I was pretty happy.

So at that time, they showed my first video. I thought, cool, finally get to see how my video came out. I felt the video they showed wasn"t exactly what I wanted to say because they didn"t talk about my moves other places, rather only places in China that I"ve been. They specifically zoomed in on me pointing to the fact that I"ve been to these places in China, including Taiwan.

After my first video, Meng Fei asks me do I know Lei Feng. (雷鋒). I said, know and he explained it. I then thought, hmm, as long as I say yes in the future, maybe he won"t explain stuff. Bad idea, but i"ll talk about that a little later.

After that, one of the girls said a comment, which I forget at the time then another girl asked me to sing the song that I was supposed to have memorized. I tried to make a joke out of it and said, I"m a bad singer, so if your"e gonna turn off your light, can you do it AFTER I sing.

The music started and I sang the first line and then lost rhythm and forgot the lyrics.

SHI* SHI* SHI*. I ended up saying shi* on TV if you listen closely. I remember spinning and telling the crew to cut and like WTF. I kept on doing the cut gesture (you know the "kill it gesture" - where you gesture at your throat) - as if they would listen to me.

Everyone started laughing. And I was like, shi* shi* shi*. This is not going well.

Meng Fei asked everyone to start singing and I was like, alright, let"s keep going.

So finally we get to my second video about me having had a Chinese girlfriend before and how we dated for 3 years and because I thought she was too focused on career, that"s why we broke up.

I remember Le Jia asking me, "I think you"re the one that"s too into career". We argued a little for like 15 minutes, all of which was cut out at the end. I really think I had said some intelligent things, but instead people will probably only remember the not so intelligent things I said.

So finally after some discussion and a few comments, and a few more lights turned off, I had 5 lights left and Meng Fei said, congrats, you can go turn of 3 lights. I looked unsure about what I Was doing. I turned off 2 girl"s lights and then the 3rd was the girl I originally wanted to choose. I turned hers off because I didn"t want to have to embarrass her at the end when I chose another girl. I sighed. She was cool too.

After that it came down to me asking my question - the question the staff had prepared. They said the question wasn"t clear enough. I was like, ahhh, fuc*. WTF, I thought it was ok. Thinking on my feet typically isn"t a problem but a million things were going through my mind so I asked, what"s your favorite Chinese story. The first question I asked they ended up cutting and said it was too generic.

So each of the two girls talked about a few stories. Meng Fei asked if I knew the stories. I said yea. And then he said oh good. Then afterwards, he asked me if I knew another story, I said yea.

And then Le Jia asked me if I knew this expression, which to this day, after watching my episode like 5 times, I still have no idea of wtf he is asking. He asked me what the "qie" word meant. I think I pulled something out of my ass and I said, isn"t it 一切 or something like that and Meng Fei said, dude, this guy is full of shit. （根本是胡說八道).

Afterwards, he tells me to remember the stories and asks me to repeat them. I end up mispronouncing one, in stead of Chang E, (name of the story) I said Qi E (Penguin).

Everyone got a kick out of it. I didn"t know what I said that was so funny. So I ended up picking the girl that they had planned me to pick. She ended up donating her ticket, I didn"t donate mine and ended up making some nice cash from it.

At the end, they wanted us to give our after thoughts. I just made something up like I liked her personality (a complete lie).

Afterwards, we went to eat Hot Pot. As we walked down the street, a couple people recognized her and said, oh, aren"t you ...

While walking around, I wasn"t terribly interested in continuing to talk with her. We went out the next day to some Nanjing sights together with the rest of the FCWR people.

The day after at night, headed back to Beijing.

Three weeks later it aired and after it aired, I would say that I was probably stopped on the street a good 5 times a day. I received about maybe 75 e-mails a day asking me if I was still single and how the show was. I went on a few dates and took a lot of pictures with random people that approached me on the street. Most of the dates pretty much was me narrating the FCWR story and the girl asking questions. Unfortunately after the show aired, I was pretty much getting ready to head to Singapore for work.

To this day when I head to China, some people recognize me and my episode also aired in Singapore a few weeks ago. It was a wonderful experience and I got my 15 minutes as a mini celebrity.

You can watch my video here: 好像在憂酷有視頻，但是在現在找不到。如果能反牆，下面是youtube 的視頻。

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj8V9RZRuAs

And that"s my story.

我以為問的是上床呢。邪惡的進來了。

我就是來質疑一下 @Lawrence Kuok（中文名：郭子威）的答案的。
我仔細讀了他的英文回答，然後按照他提供的視頻地址，看了他參加的那期非誠勿擾，有幾點疑惑：

I still remember telling him I liked 3, 12, 17 and 23.

他說自己喜歡3號、12號、17號和23號，但是我看他在哪一期最後權利反轉時，把給他留燈的3號和12號按掉了。除了他說內定的8號，他還留了不在其考慮範圍內的4號的燈。之後，他在自己答案里是這麼說自己如此選擇的理由的

I turned hers off because I didn"t want to have to embarrass her at the end when I chose another girl. I sighed. She was cool too.

他按掉之前喜歡的女孩，然後留下了不喜歡的4號女生，之後解釋說自己這麼做是不希望當她們看到自己選擇其他女孩時，她們會覺得尷尬。
雖然我語文老師依然健在，但我依然表示對郭子威的解釋理解不能。這是中西方差異嗎？
郭子威提到非誠勿擾節目組工作人員要求他選自己不待見的8號作為心動女生。我沒有證據確認這件事的真實性，姑且認為是真的。那麼疑惑就產生了，因為在那天節目里他不但老老實實答應了，而且在最後權利反轉時，不但沒有乘機按掉不喜歡的8號，反而在最後抉擇時，依然決然地選擇了8號，怎麼會那麼配合呢？節目組只要求心動女生，沒要求其他啊。太配合了吧？郭子威先生，你確定是來給自己一次戀愛機會的，還是來玩樂的？
至於不服從節目組指揮會有什麼後果， @李天放的答案以及他的那期節目表明沒有什麼後果。李天放在錄製前被告知最後的問題不好，要更改。李天放先生毫不理睬，節目錄製時依然堅持自己的問題，最後節目播出的時候依然把這段放出來了，沒有刪減。而且我印象中，非誠勿擾男嘉賓在節目上明著突破節目規則的事比比皆是，從心動和留燈女生為同一人，結果男嘉賓楞是選了另一個，到男嘉賓一個不選，扭頭走人，再到最嚴重的權利反轉環節將所有燈全部滅掉，都放出來了，沒有為難他們的意思。所以說到底，還是那個疑問，郭子威先生，你為什麼那麼配合？

我有個熟人參加了，看過的可能記得那個爭議蠻大的世界500強企業的採購經理，現實里也有點二。

有個朋友參加了我們約會吧，配對成功了。但下了節目電話號碼都沒留一個就各回各家了。不過他看中了節目組一小導演。

同學去過，大部分嘉賓不靠譜。。。自從上了非，媽媽再也不用擔心我y不到p

我有朋友去過，然後他又不喜歡女生…

在下以親友團的身分參加過，朋友是最後一個男嘉賓但是全部被滅燈。

基本上，影片內容導演都會跟你確認，但是你想要造假還是可以的，會故意拍的有爆點一點，我與朋友一起上節目，被要求要帶著『相親團』的紅布條（到現場才知道）。

主持跟老師的功力都蠻好的，雖然錄製時間很長，但是還算是有趣，嘉賓現場素質也都不錯，不過，一到後台其實根本碰不到，我們是在江蘇衛視樓下的咖啡廳碰見去找他們合照而已（也都愛理不理）。

不過最強的就是那個郵箱。

最後留下的郵箱，大概會有200多封信件旋風般的湧入，每個都想要好好的認識你（真的想要相親交往的），因為每個都有點認真，你可以要求對方附上照片，在下也相信，要YP一定很容易，不過朋友是真心想要找人結婚，因此約了一個女孩見面，之後覺得不合適就不再聯絡了。

因此在下歸納上非誠物擾的人有三種：真心想找愛、真心想YP、真心想上電視。

以上報告。

沒去過，但是千真萬確的是很多女嘉賓是有男朋友在身的。

很多男嘉賓也是有女朋友在身的，綠帽子滿天飛。

非誠二手雞，中國最大的二手雞交易市場，沒有中間商賺差價。

這個問題邀請老黃回答啊，他非常清楚

沒有。好玩。

非誠勿擾8年觀眾，看非誠勿擾成了習慣，沒有漏掉過一期。基本上背對著電視都能猜到哪個女嘉賓在發言。看到了很多社會話題，人性，等等知識。從小屁孩到30歲阿姨。單身

當我看到翁瑋瑋，王濛，郭蕾這三個人，我就再也不相信他們都是來找真愛的了

在後台會算喝酒，我前面一個哥們喝多了在台上耍功夫褲子裂了

上過，好玩。